Was I right to end my relationship?

“HELLO, I HAVE A CRUEL DOUBT THAT IS GRIEVING ME.

I ENDED MY DATE BECAUSE OF ANOTHER GUY I WAS INTO. THE QUESTION IS THAT HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND TOO. HE HAS ALWAYS SHOWED INTEREST IN ME, BUT NOW THAT I’M SINGLE, HE STAYS ON THE WALL.

IN ONE OF THE CONVERSATIONS WE HAD, HE SAID HE IS CONFUSED, NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO. WE KISSED ABOUT 5 TIMES, BUT I DECIDED TO STOP AT THIS STAGE TO NOT GO FURTHER. AND EVEN SO, I DIDN’T FIND IT RIGHT TO KISS A GUY WHO HAS A GIRLFRIEND, SO I BROKE UP WITH MY EX-BOYFRIEND, SINCE I DIDN’T WANT TO CHEAT HIM.

I GAVE A STOP IN THE SITUATION AND THERE’S NO MORE KISSES BETWEEN US. PLUS I’M IGNORING HIM, AFTER ALL, I DON’T WANT ANYONE TO PLAY WITH MY FEELINGS.

THE QUESTION IS, WILL HE CHOOSE TO MAINTAIN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH ME? WHAT SHOULD I LOOK FOR TO MAKE SURE HE REALLY WANTS ME AND NOT JUST PLAYING WITH MY FEELINGS? THANK YOU VERY MUCH IN ADVANCE! LEXY”

Hello Lexy,

Thank you very much for submitting your question. It’s a really interesting question and I think we can think about it together.

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Okay, first we need to keep in mind what your goals are with this guy. It’s interesting to reflect on your feelings for him., which could just be sexual attraction, which will pass, or it could be something deeper. This will help you realize what your real goals are with him.

Starting from the premise that you want a serious relationship with him, you must think about the consequences – both positive and negative of this attitude -, after all, both have just left a relationship and especially the man, when it ends, he does not intend to face another so soon. Many men need time to work through the breakup of a past relationship and even do some activities they planned to do but couldn’t because they were just in a relationship.

That said, it would be interesting for you to think if you are really ready for a romantic relationship, if this is what you want and what are your expectations about relationships, as well as your beliefs, because from your question, it seems that you do not accept betrayal, since ended a relationship so that this would not happen, which was not what he did, after all, he continued with his relationship. You can reflect on what would happen if the story were, shall we say, different.

As for whether he intends to end his current relationship to be with you, it can be a very difficult task to find out. Some men even end a relationship to enter into another with the woman for whom they have an intense sexual desire, however, in these situations it can be common for the man to be divided between the two women, leaving some gap for the relationship that “ended”.

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After reflecting on these questions, about your feelings, desires and goals, you can talk to this guy – in a direct, but without charge -, about what he wants to do and even about these topics, like his feelings , goals in the current relationship or in a future relationship, and so on. In addition to talking, it is necessary to observe his behavior with you and with his current girlfriend, so you will have some tips on what he intends to do, after all, if he says he doesn’t love you and wants to be with you, but he usually has loving attitudes with her, treats her in a romantic way, maybe he is contradicting himself, indicating that he may not intend to end the current relationship.

BEHAVIORS ARE GENERALLY TRUE THAN COMMUNICATION, THEREFORE, UNDERSTANDING HIS ATTITUDES, TOWARDS YOU AND CURRENT BOYFRIEND, CAN CLARIFY SOME OF YOUR DOUBTS.

We do not have the objective here of judging, much less stating what should be done. These answers can only be found by you, but in this period it is really interesting to try to avoid physical contact, kisses and caresses as much as possible, until you can find out what he wants with you, because if he only wants you to be sexual, but you want to have In a long-term relationship, these goals may conflict and you could be hurt. The most important thing right now is to be calm.. But if you decide your goal isn’t a long-term relationship, you can find other ways to fulfill those desires.

Don’t forget that you always have to take into account your own feelings and the feelings of others, as well as keep in mind that all our attitudes have a consequence, so regardless of what you plan to do from these reflections, it’s You need to be open to the consequences of your actions.

I hope we were able to make you reflect on this topic, Lexy. Remembering that we remain open to your questions and if you want to share the outcome of this story, we would be happy to share it.

MALE BRAIN

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