There are cruel people disguised as good people

There are cruel people disguised as good people. They are beings that harm, that attack through Machiavellian emotional blackmail based on fear, aggression and guilt. They appear kindly good, behind which hidden interests and deep frustrations are hidden.

It is often said that “he who hurts is because at some point in his life he was also hurt.” That who was hurt, hurt. However, and although there is still a truthful basis behind these ideas, there is another aspect that we do not always like to admit. Evil exists. Cruel people sometimes have certain biological components that incline them towards certain aggressive behaviors.

The scientist and popularizer Marcelino Cereijido points out something interesting to us. “There is no gene for evil, but there are certain biological and cultural circumstances that can lead to it.“. The most complex thing about this topic is that very often, we tend to look for labels and pathologies for behaviors that simply do not fall within psychodiagnostic manuals.

Evil acts can occur without the need for an underlying psychological illness. All of us, at some point, have met a person with this type of profile. Beings who give us praise and attention. People who are well liked, with social success, but who in private, outline a dark and very long shadow. In the abyss of their hearts there breathes cruelty, lack of empathy and even aggressiveness.

We suggest you reflect on it.

Cruel people and the molecule of morality

As we have pointed out, to this day no one has been able to identify the existence of the evil gene. However, In recent years, studies have increased on a fascinating aspect: the so-called “molecule of morality.”. To better understand what this structure is, we will put it in context with a real story. A terrible story, which unfortunately happens too often.

Hans Reiser is an American programmer famous for having created the ReiserFS files. Currently, and since 2008, he is in Mule Creek prison for having murdered his wife. He had no qualms about pleading guilty and revealing where he had buried Nina Reiser’s body. As a curious fact, it is worth mentioning that This programming specialist has prodigious intelligenceto the point that he began his university studies while still a teenager.

After a quick trial and being admitted to San Quentin prison, he decided to prepare his appeal himself. Through 5 handwritten sheets, he argued that his brain worked differently. Reiser was aware of the studies that were being carried out with oxytocin and used it as an argument. According to him, he was born with that problem: his brain did not produce the so-called moral molecule. He lacked empathy.

Obviously, and as expected, this argument did not exempt him from continuing to serve his life sentence. However, the issue of the origin of evil was once again open to debate. Today full value is given to the fact that Oxytocin is that hormone that makes us “human” in its truest sense.. Respectful people concerned about serving, caring for and empathizing with our fellow human beings.

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How to defend ourselves from camouflaged cruelty

In our daily lives we do not always interact with people as cruel as the one mentioned above. However, yes We are victims of other types of interactions: those of false kindness, covert aggressiveness, manipulation, subtle selfishness, the most harmful irony, etc.

These behaviors could result from several aspects. Lack of Emotional Intelligence, a non-affective environment where the person grew up or even why not, a deficit in the release of oxytocin. All this would determine, perhaps, this more or less covert aggressiveness. Either way, We cannot forget that by aggressiveness we do not refer exclusively to physical abuse.

Emotional, instrumental or verbal aggression are less reportable injuries due to the need to prove them, but more everyday ones against which we must defend ourselves. We explain how.

Cruel people: knowing how to recognize them and avoid them

We can all be victims of cruel people. It doesn’t matter age, status or our previous experiences. These profiles live at the family level, in work environments and in any scenario. However, we can identify them in various ways.

The person with a dark heart will captivate us with lies. They will be dressed in beautiful words and noble actions, but little by little blackmail will emerge. Later, the generation of fear, guilt and mental violence.Faced with these mechanisms, there is only one option: non-tolerance.. It doesn’t matter if it’s our sister, our partner or that co-worker. Those who disturb calm and balance only seek one thing: to turn off our self-esteem to have control. We will have the clear feeling that there is no way out. That they have us under their networks. However, we must remember something “He who is master of himself is more powerful”. Thus, the game of domination and aggressiveness must be broken forcefully.

The games of domination and covert aggression are very intricate. However, it is necessary to act quickly by dismantling traps and reacting to veiled threats. When we feel discomfort or concern towards certain behaviors, there is only one wise option: distance..

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