There are absences that represent a true triumph

Absences hurt but it is a pain that mitigates and disappears with the passage of time, however The pain of sharing our life with someone who harms us is long and very deep.. A friend, a family member, a partner can make our lives miserable, but it is in our hands to walk away and live a full life.

If a person belittles you, they don’t love you; If he criticizes you to hurt you, he doesn’t love you; If he insults you or mistreats you, he doesn’t love you: If he ignores you or simply doesn’t take you into account, he doesn’t love you. Isn’t it better that a person like that is not in your life? Now that is a real triumph.

People whose absences are a success

With certain types of people we must create a healthy and healing distance, a distance that makes us feel that we are ourselves and that we can live in a climate of well-being and security. Here are some types of people whose absence is a real success.

The pessimist

It can appear in many aspects of our lives, among our friends, in a relationship, at work. The first thing to do is identify it. It’s that person who doesn’t stop complaining, for whom everything is bad, everything is against him, his passion is reproaching others, without any foundation.

Actually These are people with low self-esteem, who like to convey their concern. Worrying is human, but it is about having a worry that seeks solutions and helps us, that is healthy and positive and not paralyzing. It is about looking for the opportunity in each situation to grow and not to stagnate.

The manipulator

a manipulator will make you believe that what is best for you is coincidentally what is best for him, so you will find yourself doing things you don’t want to do. They are people who know how to manage emotions and use that skill. A manipulator is a specialist in identifying your weaknesses so that you do what he wants.

For this reason, it is important to detect it as soon as possible, but we must consider that a manipulator can have many facets: a person who is always a victim and makes you feel guilty for their misfortunes, a person who is aggressive and who you prefer to please than confront, a person who uses your words to transform them into things you have not said.

The possessive

A possessive person will prevent you from relating to other people, isolate you and make you believe that you are better off that way. It is a person for whom you are another object to possess exclusively. He tells you phrases like: “You are mine/mine.” Those types of people are better off becoming absences, because no one should own you, you are a person not a thing, you have emotions and feelings, you live and breathe, you relate to others, you are human.

The aggressive

An aggressive person loves to argue, likes to verbally attack, and feels powerful that way.. Aggressiveness is their reason for being, it has no basis except their own insecurity and lack of self-esteem. Run away from a person like this as soon as possible. Love yourself and believe in yourself, don’t let anyone belittle you and make you feel inferior, you are a person and as such, different from others, neither better nor worse, you are unique.

Let loneliness caress you

We have a deeply held belief that to be happy we need others in our lives, we need to have a partner, we need to have friends. But happiness is something internal, something that concerns each of us as individuals, something that does not depend on other people but on ourselves.

There are people with millions of friends or a partner who are deeply unhappy., because they make their well-being depend on others. Think of something that makes you happy, riding a bike, writing, reading, all those things will continue to make you happy regardless of other people, because the satisfaction that comes from doing them is in yourself.

That’s why Let loneliness caress you, wrap you around you, allow you to know yourself and accept yourself.. Let it surround you and invade your life from time to time. Benefit from silence, your own space alone, going for a walk and observing others while you enjoy your thoughts. Feel how the absence of people who make you feel bad is a success.

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