People are born and die only once. Between the beginning and the end we live many experiences over and over again, but love… love only comes once. It could be that you fall in love a million times. Maybe you know half of the seven billion people in this world, maybe you even kiss all those people. Maybe you get stuck in the middle of it all, maybe you fall in love with more than one person at the same time.

Possibly, you are gathering bits and pieces and characteristics of different people and go on assembling your ideal person. You will read articles saying that love is a little plant that must be watered every day to grow, you will read hard and follow step by step the “ten tips on how to be the ideal person” and how to recognize when the other person is too. wants you.

You will think that time will strengthen the relationship, you will believe when they tell you that you should date, get engaged and then get married. That there is a natural order of things, and rushing everything is a mistake. They will advise you to enjoy life before having children, but you can’t wait that long either. They will say that one is little and two is ideal. Three is madness. And the age difference must be a few years. If it’s a couple, even better.

Everything you do differently will be seen in a crooked, negative way. You can’t go around kissing every mouth in the world, otherwise no one will respect you. But also don’t marry the first idiot that appears in front of you, after all, how will you know if you’re the right person if you haven’t met anyone else? Don’t get married early, you need to enjoy life! Then you will end up regretting and betraying the person. Don’t wait too long to get married. The age comes, and it is necessary to have children before the age of 35. And make sure you don’t get too selective, because those who choose a lot end up being chosen.

All of us at some point in our lives will realize that all advice, lists, tips and lessons are useless. That moment will be the exact second you will see another reality, it will be the moment where the curtains will fall from your eyes, and the truth will be in front of you. Anyway, you will realize that love has no rules, and often goes against everything you’ve been told. But all those question marks that hovered above your head, all those doubts whispering in your ears and echoing in the back of your mind will turn into a single certainty: “I found the right person.”

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There is no right age for this, nor is it necessary to have previous experience. You may meet him at fifteen, or only at the end of his life. And I don’t know, maybe you’ll never be lucky enough to come across this person, but you’ll think you’ve met more than once, oh come on…

At some point in your life, you will find that you need to shrink yourself to fit in someone else’s small space. You’ll find that living on crumbs is acceptable, after all you weren’t very hungry anyway. You will often doubt everything, cry into the pillow until you fall asleep making plans to conquer that person who hasn’t seen you. “What if my hair was longer? Smoother? More curly? What if I had other clothes? Other tastes?” You will squeeze yourself, oppress yourself, you will pretend, you will laugh at what you don’t find funny, you will pretend you didn’t see it, you will try to be more, expand to surround the person and be noticed.

So many other times you will force yourself to go out with that little guy who is very nice and very nice. Two hours later you’ll be thinking about the ticket you have to pay on Monday, while you take a sip of the beer that has already warmed up. But his friends will say he’s really cool, what more do you want? He has a perfect smile, opens the car door and is obviously in love with you. You will feel guilty for not paying back so much attention, you will repeat to yourself that time will create feelings that are not there.

None of this will help. Anything! Because your right person won’t leave you in the background. It’s not going to say that you’re not ready for a relationship, that you’re confused. Your right person won’t be tired or need a break because they just got out of a relationship. Because the ideal time is a fallacy. Because the right moment doesn’t exist, what exists is the right person. The right person won’t have to run after you either, demonstrating in every way possible and showing up at your house at two in the morning with flowers and chocolate.

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When it happens to the right person it’s beautiful, but when it’s not, your stomach will turn, you’ll be scared of so much attention. Then you’ll get fed up, sleepy, bored, hateful…

One day I was living my life very happy and content. Without thinking about any of it. Life went on as light as a hot afternoon at the beach, with no clock to mark the time, no right time for anything. I felt complete and solitude was a great companion.

The silence, the legs stretched out on the couch, the whole bottle of wine for me. As well as the remote.

When I crossed paths with my right person, I already knew that something had changed. It was at the first look, at the first smile. My eyes suddenly lit up to an unknown world. When love arrived, it just fell on my head, buried me. I was trapped in the rubble, immobile, petrified.

I felt very afraid, I felt small, useless, powerless. Since when will a feeling take over me? Will you send me? There was no choice. It was there, imposing itself, invading, breaking down all the walls I’d carefully built over the years. It entered my eyes, my mouth and my ears… it flooded my head and
took over everything in me.

Love looked at me with derision, disdained every story of my life, turned everything I had been into a silly, childish story. Tore up all my lists, dragged me into something I didn’t even want to live.

But love has that, you’ll try to run away. You will try to run. Go after your friends who will say you’re crazy, that you’re not rational. You know that too, but you can’t help it, you just can’t. It’s like a virus that you catch in the air, and before you know it, it’s already in a critical state. It’s incurable, and it will hurt too. It will hurt because you will realize that you are not that free. You will realize that some things in life are inevitable and that control is an illusion.

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When love dominates you like that, the only thing you can do is let yourself go. Enjoy and accept. This will be the only time. You probably won’t have a date to celebrate, because you can’t say exactly when it started. It doesn’t have a beginning, it was there all along and you were just lucky enough to recognize it.

And there will be no end.

Even if you don’t end your days with the person. Because after she crosses your path, you will carry her inside you. In all its details. Your eyes and your smile. Don’t fear the people of the past, because when love comes, you will empty yourself of everything to fill yourself with that love, and definitively.

Forget everything you’ve been told, love doesn’t have a leaflet or instruction manual. One day you go to sleep full of doubts and the next day you wake up with great certainty. It could be after the first look, and it could be after years of friendship. But the certainty will be there, proving that there is someone in the world who will make your dreams come true without you having to say what they are.

That half-crooked smile is the most beautiful in the world. That you are just the right size to fit in that person’s heart, without any effort.

You are a paper boat in the current. You can try rowing, but if I were you, I’d just let myself go, because everything you do won’t change fate. Do everything or do nothing. It’s inevitable. Just like being born. Just like dying.

“Row, row, row your boat. Gently Down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily… Life is but a dream”