The perfection of being imperfect

They say that being imperfect is the worst thing there is. That we must always seek to be the best in everything and that perfection is fulfilling what is expected of us. But to be imperfect is to be a person capable of accepting your mistakes and forgiving yourself for them.

To be imperfect is to be ourselves, with our achievements and satisfaction, but also with our losses and mistakes. Imperfection is that mark that identifies us, what makes us different from the person next to us and makes us authentic. To be imperfect is to be ourselves.

Perfection does not exist

We all make mistakes. In fact, trial and error is one of the strongest bases for learning how the world works and how we ourselves function, especially to form our values, attitudes and habits. Making mistakes is learning about ourselves.

Everything gets complicated when others, on many occasions, only tell us the things we do wrong. They criticize us when we make a mistake in something that we generally do correctly. There are times when things don’t go as we would like.

So under the influence of others and ourselves, we get used to telling ourselves what we do wrong and what we get confused about, and we don’t reward ourselves when we do it right, which is most of the time. Being imperfect is not a problem, punishing yourself for it is.

That is why language is so important. Analyzing the way we speak to ourselves and questioning what the voices speak about ourselves is essential to have a broader and more objective vision of who we are. Self-esteem must be taken care of.

The imperfection of being yourself

Think about all the people around you and notice that they have all made mistakes. That does not mean that just because they have been committed they are in a certain way or another. Anyone makes a mistake and it says nothing about us. A mistake is the opportunity to learn to do it differently.

Let’s not always let others be our judges, but let’s not always be ourselves. So think about the next time you hear yourself say that a person is a disaster, heartless, selfish, or carefree, just by seeing an example of their behavior and not really knowing them. Let’s not judge others without evidence.

We are ourselves when we accept that our self is made up of successes and errors. When we know that we can always improve something and when we acknowledge them to the people we may have harmed. Let’s not judge others for their mistakes.

Once the damage is done, it is best to recognize and explain the reasons that led us to commit it. Showing a sincere attitude to others allows them to empathize with us better and is much better than trying to disguise the truth. Forgive others and yourself.

Learn from mistakes

Once the mistake has been made and accepted, learning from it is the best solution to face life. The best option is to ask ourselves what led us to make the mistake and take into account the factors that intervened in them. Learning from mistakes is learning to be stronger.

In this aspect, attention plays a fundamental role. On many occasions we burden ourselves with duties and obligations, overestimating our ability to cope with them. And of course, When we demand a lot from ourselves we do not meet our expectations.

Then we must keep in mind that, sometimes, something going wrong does not only depend on us or others, but there are variables that we cannot control that lead to something happening. In fact, trying to control everything makes us commit more mistakes. Life, after all, is an accumulation of mistakes. An uncertain path full of attempts. That’s the key, trying.