The importance of knowing how to listen to others

We don’t know how to listen to the people. We think we do, but in reality we only listen to what interests us. The rest is unimportant. This causes problems in our relationships, so today we are going to dig a little deeper into how significant it is. know how to listen to others.

I remember when I was at school, a nun who was our teacher and gave us Spanish Language classes read us a book called Momo. I will never forget! Momo was a girl with the virtue of knowing how to listen, and I do not write these lines because I understand that she has that virtue, on the contrary, I think I do NOT have it, but as they say “recognizing that you must change is the first step.”

Putting into practice knowing how to listen to others

Today I put into practice “listening to people.” I put my cell phone in my purse, I totally forgot about the environment I was in, I stopped interrupting that person to tell him about my experience similar to the one he told me.

I looked into his eyes, I saw his gestures, I saw the expression on his face while he was talking, how his breathing changed according to the feeling he wanted to express to me. Today I realized that knowing how to listen to others is more than hearing words that remain in the air.

Listening is focusing on what the other person wants to tell you, letting them express themselves, observing their gestures, nodding their heads, creating a comfortable and relaxed atmosphere, etc.

I can say that putting listening into practice made me feel very good, I felt smarter since I could understand everything they wanted to tell me, than perhaps they couldn’t tell me with their words, because the right word didn’t reach their head. , they said it with their eyes and their gestures.

I managed to feel empathy not because of a similar experience that I had previously experienced, but by putting myself in their shoes by listening to that person and understanding what they feel. I understood that not necessarily when someone needs you to listen to them, they want to know if what they feel or what they experienced at a certain moment has happened to you, but rather they want you to understand how they felt.

Listening goes beyond our ears, it reaches our brain, it reaches our soul.

Throughout the day we can talk to many people, most of them hear us, but very few listen to us. How did you feel the last time someone listened to you?

Talk less and listen more

Now I understand why they say we have 2 ears and 1 mouth, to speak less and listen more, and I can tell you that throughout my life I have used this the other way around. On the other hand, I cannot make judgments for another person, but I assure you that those with whom I spoke felt that they were understood, that they were paid attention, in short, that they were listened to.

Knowing how to listen to others allows our relationships with others to improve. Well, the other person will feel heard and there is nothing more pleasant than someone showing interest in what you are telling them. Now, in the age of technology and mobile phones, very few people listen. However, by being aware, you can change this.

I don’t know why we prefer conversations through a computer, mobile phone or tablet. Face to face is always more enriching. The variety of communication that is emitted through gestures, glances, changes in intonation and the rhythm of speech cannot be appreciated through an electronic device. We are not losing great wealth!

I think I will continue to put this “listening to people” into practice. There are many more benefits than losses!

And have you learned to know how to listen to others?

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