The effects of nicknames on couples

Do you know what the benefits of nicknames are for couples? Maybe you haven’t thought about it, but giving our partner an affectionate nickname (as well as having one), brings us important benefits.

The nicknames in couples They are affectionate names to call each other: love, king, my life, etc. Furthermore, within these nicknames we can find those that are more common but also some that have been specially designed for one member of the couple, unique in their kind.

But, Did you know that a new study affirms that nicknames strengthen couples and increase satisfaction in the relationship? Well yes, or at least that’s what a study conducted in 1993 by Carol Bruess and Judy Pearson of Ohio University says. The study was carried out with different types of couples, from newlyweds to others who had been together for many years. Most at least had one nickname, some even had several.

It is strange to meet couples who do not nickname each other in some way. For some it will be “puppy”, for others “my life”, some will refer to the couple as “the light of my days” others as “heaven”.

Nicknames in couples indicate emotional health

Why is the use of nicknames in couples a test of emotional health?

Firstly, because they indicate that they have their own private world, because in the end to share something we do not need anything more than communication, in this case language. Secondly, The nickname is usually used to express contentment or discontent. Thus, when the couple refers to the other by a name other than the nickname: either the couple is in a formal context (in which forms must be maintained), or the person who omits the nickname is angry. Nicknames facilitate empathy between members of a couple.

Nicknames in couples: Should everyone look for them?

That said, the question is obvious. Hereinafter Should we consider finding a nickname for our partner? Well, we leave that to each one’s choice but, if you dare, we give you a few tips so that your choice is correct:

Lifelong nicknames work very well. Honey, honey, my love, my life.Choose the right nickname according to your partner. If she’s a rocker or a goth, calling him “daddy chulo” or “my black girl” probably isn’t going to be very successful.It is not very convenient for you to use a nickname that highlights some negative quality of your partner.. “My grumpy”, “fat” or “freckles” does not usually favor the relationship much and in moments of crisis it can subtract instead of add if the other person’s self-esteem is not good.For some, resort to ito/ita like “thingy”, “little girl”, “sweetheart” is always very effective. However, to others it may seem like the worst ode to kitsch.There are nicknames for those with a sweet tooth, like “bizcochito”, “caramelito”; for animal lovers like “cat” or “tiger”, majestic nicknames like “my king”, “princess”… or for lovers of Cuban son “mami”, “papi”, “negra”, “negro”…

Having said this, we invite you to try to find a nickname if you don’t have one. Out of context or analyzed coldly it can seem very cheesy and cloying. But it can also be a good excuse to have some fun with your partner. Everything you unite and share with her, everything that belongs to your world. What you have created in a positive context will always unite you.

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Do you and your partner have any nicknames?