The bittersweet charm of impossible loves or hearts that are not forgotten

Who has not succumbed to the sweetness and bitterness of impossible loves? The typical example in this category is teenage love.. The one he felt for the English teacher. A platonic love that was satisfied with a look or a smile. That gave rise to dreaming more, but that never formulated specific objectives. There was even a certain enjoyment in the reverie of that love.

There are also, of course, those impossible loves that point to a singer, or an actress, or someone famous. in any case. They are those affections that are deposited in someone whom one sees, even if that person has no idea of ​​our existence. They perceive themselves as familiar, but in reality they are light years apart. Even so, many teenagers and even young people or adults have experienced it.

Impossible loves themselves cannot be missing. Those that are born and light up, but are surrounded by bad fortune, or by real obstacles. They are affections that are lived intensely and that, in one way or another, never die.

There are several types of impossible loves

Experts on the subject say that There are basically three types of impossible loves. One is “phantom love.” “, the other is “narcissistic love” and finally there is “difficult love”. The first corresponds to those cases where you fall in love with someone who does not exist. You need to love and you give someone characteristics and virtues that they don’t really have. Almost always that someone represents a way to fill childhood deficiencies.

On the other hand, there are impossible loves of the narcissistic type. The impossibility of it lies in the fact that you never find it. You think you deserve someone so perfect, that you can spend your entire life looking for them and not find them. It is loving the void, or desiring an exalted version of the ego own. When you love these kinds of impossible things, what you have is loneliness.. Nobody comes to make the fantasy come true.

Finally there are loves that are impossible due to difficulty. These are loves that take a lot of work come to fruition. There are specific circumstances that make them very difficult. For example, that person already has a commitment. Or it is someone who simply cannot fall in love with you. Or, in other cases, there are strong religious or ideological oppositions that prevent it.

This last group also includes cases of great loves that become impossible due to the death of one of the two.. The person dies, but the love that unites you to them does not die. At least for a while you are trapped in the contradiction of loving someone who no longer exists. If there are no other emotional problems involved, they are impossible to overcome over time.

The charm of impossible loves

It is impossible loves that lead us to discover that poet within us. The most pragmatic have never experienced it, but they have missed out on a hellish and wonderful experience at the same time. All loves need some impossibility to maintain themselves, to keep the desire alive.. And when that impossibility is absolute, the soul burns, but creativity and the impulse to live and die in a single moment also burn.

The impossibility of love is experienced, more or less, as a vital tragedy. At least this is what it feels like while fighting to make them a reality. They are full of torment and place you in the paradox of not being able to leave them, but also not being able to achieve them.. They suffer and enjoy at the same time. They are joy and abyss at the same time.

Despite everything, they have a unique charm. They test you, they challenge the deepest part of you. And one thing is certain: they are never forgotten. They are never remembered with indifference. They fade with time, they become filled with reality, but they remain a spark that makes your heart skip a beat.

Only on some occasions do impossible loves become a burden. It happens when you can’t give up the fantasy and you cling to it blindly.. When you can’t give way to the frustration that comes with accepting that yes, it definitely couldn’t be. In these cases they cause terrible pain and can even make you sick. But, to learn to truly love, impossible loves constitute, without a doubt, an excellent school.

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