The bitter taste of infidelity

Infidelity is the responsibility of both the person who is unfaithful and the person who is the object of the infidelity. Because, Once the act of infidelity is recognized, no one is obliged to remain with their partner. And because everyone, even deep down, always knows who they are involved with and what they are getting involved in.

Here all those involved are responsible, to a greater or lesser extent. In this area, whims and lack of maturity pay dearly.. The delays in the path of growth, the postponements and delays; debts with oneself…

“The difference between infidelity between the two sexes is so real that a passionate woman can forgive infidelity, something impossible for a man.”

-Stendhal-

Can the person who commits infidelity change?

Normally, the person who has led a disordered life, full of ephemeral and “triangular” relationships, is unlikely to one day stop behaving that way. In fact, it could happen that the problem gets worse.

In those cases, Love goes from being something healthy to becoming, in the strictest sense, a vice. The result: destroyed lives, resentful people, lost hopes. If you stay stuck in a relationship like this, you may be missing the opportunity to experience true love. Maybe not ideal love, but a relationship that brings you more joy than sadness. If you choose that, don’t blame others for your misfortunes. Remember that you are free to choose who to love.

Love is never begged

Disillusionment does not come precisely from infidelity, but from the lack of character to say: “never again”… Each person can make their existence a living hell. Ultimately, it’s all a matter of mutual respect. A matter of dignity and self-love. Because you should not “beg for feelings” and because Everything that is done under these parameters usually lacks solid and strong roots..

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Likewise, if you build a ten-story building, but its base and foundation are weak, sooner or later it will collapse. The relationships are somewhat similar. Well, they must be founded with respect, trust, fidelity and commitment.

Why do you allow infidelity?

Could we be victims of our decisions? For example, if you know that that person is very prone to having more than one relationship at a time, he is unfaithful, and even so you decide to be with him, you are risking that they could hurt you. Therefore, before complaining or falling into deep depression because your partner is unfaithful, You should analyze in very detail why you allow it.. The problem, as such, is not so much with the other person, but with yourself. What is stopping you from leaving that relationship, instead of remaining in eternal complaining?

He who is unfaithful deceives himself

The unfaithful person is the main person responsible. There are those who say that he is unfaithful, but not disloyal, because his partner knows that he has other relationships. However, this “sincerity” is only apparent. Because infidelity not only depends on deception as such, but also on the effect it generates on the person. with whom we have a commitment.

This may not be an act of “sincerity,” but rather pure cynicism.. Literally, what they do is wash their hands. In effect, they transfer responsibility for their behavior to the other person. If the relationship is open and both are adults, it is ultimately everyone’s choice. But if what there is is a situation in which one takes advantage of the insecurity or emotional dependence of the other, We are not talking about sincerity, but about lack of respect.

If I don’t love and respect myself, no one will.

A pretty face, a pretty body, a nice word, a nice detail, loneliness, routine, boredom… Unfortunately, there can be more than a million reasons to justify infidelity… The only thing certain is that once it occurs, the couple is never the same again.

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Not all infidelities mean that the couple is unviable. There are no absolute truths, much less in the field of love.. What is certain is that everything depends on the people, the circumstances in which the events occur and the way in which the couple is able to face them. Can you overcome infidelity? Definitely yes. But if what precedes it is a commitment that was not respected, it will leave a bitter taste in the mouth and will demand a lot from both of them to be able to stay together.