The 7 most frequent emotional problems

Emotional problems affect the way we think and feel. The symptoms can be very severe and in most cases do not go away on their own. In addition, they may be associated with other diseases.

The first thing to do to overcome emotional (or other types of) problems is to know what it consists of, that is, Know and accept its cause as a starting point to change the situation. Only by identifying what is happening to us can we work on it.

There are different emotional problems. In this article we are going to focus on seven of them. We have chosen them based on current prevalence, that is, because they are the ones that most invade our lives and the most disabling by not allowing us to be or act as we really are.

Most common emotional problems today

Maybe you identify with some of these emotional problems, that’s why It is important that you know what behaviors we have been learning, in short, those that are causing us discomfort.

Repression/emotional blockage. Emotional denial.Emotional lack of control.Emotional disconnection. Conflict between contradictory emotions.Emotional attachment.Search for pleasurable emotions.

emotional repression

It occurs when we block the appearance of an emotion. That is, we are aware of what is happening to us, but we do not want to express the emotion or we do not know how to express it, thus remaining a contained emotion. In some way, this lack of emotional expression also implies a lack of work with emotion.

Emotional repression can go so far as to prevent the person feel some emotions based on a conviction: you have no right to feel that way. Repression leads directly to the lack of inner freedom due to the axioms on which it is based and the confusion it generates.

When unpleasant emotions, such as sadness, are not expressed, this discomfort accumulates. At first silently, then with suffering, until the person can’t take it anymore and ends up exploding.. Even according to Pablo Fernández Berrocal, professor of Psychology at the University of Málaga, repressing emotions can lead to psychosomatic disorders.

emotional denial

Emotional denial is a defense mechanism that consists of confront emotions by denying their existence or its relationship or relevance to the person. That is, we oppose our emotions and try not to feel them.

When this happens, emotion begins to take on more prominence in our body, producing unpleasant effects that we sometimes do not associate with it. That is why, sometimes, we somatize them, so that they manifest in our body in the form of muscle tension, for example.

emotional lack of control

It involves an attack. The one who performs a series of emotions fueled by mental images that cause pain in the person, leading her to act wrongly and make decisions that, with a cool head, she would not have made.

When an emotional lack of control occurs, it is common for the emotions to be the ones that take control of our way of thinking and acting. A loss of control that can lead to actions with significant negative consequences.

emotional disconnection

It is a defense mechanism that causes problems connecting emotionally. It is as if there is an interruption of the emotional cycle.

This mechanism tries to avoid the repetition of past sufferings and remove the possibility of harm, but does not allow for healthy participation in life. Sometimes, living with “autopilot” always on, means that we do not notice the emotions we really feel.

Conflict between contradictory emotions

An emotional conflict shows an internal knot that causes discomfort and that the person must resolve. This is a tangle that produces a blocking point. Emotional conflicts can be more difficult to identify since they are not observed in a visible way, however, they are felt.

We move to extremes and are determined for things to be black or white, when they can exist in a gray scale. The same thing happens with emotions. We think not we can experience more than one emotion at a time when the reality is that yes, in fact, we can even mix emotions.

emotional attachment

Sometimes it is difficult for us to get rid of some emotional states, that is, we we remain anchored in an emotion associated with a past event. The most likely cause may be unresolved trauma or emotion not processed correctly.

The practice of “letting go” or Mindfulness meditation can provide good benefits when it comes to connecting with present emotions, instead of being connected to emotions associated with past events.

Search for pleasurable emotions

The problem appears because the person is not able to tolerate frustration. This may be because you have never allowed yourself to experience unpleasant emotions. They are people who They only look for pleasurable emotions or pleasant.

However, just as we have learned patterns of behavior that cause us discomfort, we have also learned patterns of behavior that cause us discomfort. we can learn others more appropriate and adaptive. It is, therefore, about “unlearning” the responses that are causing us pain and learning some new ones that make us feel better. It’s time to train our emotional intelligence.

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