Why don’t you answer the messages?

When two people are getting to know each other and are interested in each other, they emit signals to show that they feel attracted, that they are liking what they are learning about the other, and that they want to know more. The problem is that this courtship process that used to take place in person now it is lived through the networks and the telephone. And that complicates everything.

It is not easy to know what the other person is feeling if we cannot look into their eyes and see how his whole body expresses itself. However, there is a very easy way to know if the other person is interested: if he answers the messages or does not answer them.

The normal thing is that if both people have the same level of desire and enthusiasm to continue the relationship, messages flow. When two people like each other very much and are getting to know each other, they look for each other. And this is how they weave, little by little, the relationship while sending signals about their desires and feelings.

Is it normal that you don’t answer me quickly?

There are people who feel very anxious when the other person does not immediately reply to their messages. Sometimes that anxiety when their partner shows no interest in connecting leads them to despair because They don’t know how to interpret that silence.

If you don’t look at the phone…

It is true that there are people who do not check their mobile phones every two minutes and who only look at their phones at the end of the day or at specific times. There are also people who do not like the tyranny of social networks and private networks, who is capable of leaving the phone stored for hours while working, having fun or resting.

There are even people who do not have a telephone or social media profiles and who openly say that they do not like to communicate with their people in this way.

If you read the messages, but do not answer…

In the rest of the cases, that of the people who are connected normally, that the person does not answer can mean several things:

He’s not interested enough in you. That the person who promised to call doesn’t call says a lot about your degree of enthusiasm and commitment. It means that her desires are not the same as yours. If you’re in a relationship where your partner isn’t connected to you except at odd moments, then it’s better to leave the relationship or not start it.He wants to show you that he has the power. There are people who show their indifference with the intention of making the other person wait and who enjoy making themselves desired, even if the other person suffers. In the collective imagination, the idea persists that the worse you treat someone, the more desire and love they will feel for you. Whether the indifference is real or not, it is convenient to leave these relationships.

Spending hours or days without communicating is a way of subduing the other person, of keeping them in suspense, of exercising power from a position of coldness or indifference.

You are only interested in specific moments. If he only takes the initiative to establish communication when he wants to see you at specific times, for example, to have an appointment with the aim of enjoying a sexual encounter, it means that he does not want a daily life with you. He makes it clear to you through his way of communicating with you.

respond to silence with indifference

I think it’s not worth it stay to suffer when the other person answers you with silence or makes you wait for days: In that first contact we can obtain the information we need to know if a relationship is worth it or not.

Leave a relationship based on these games of indifference it is a form of self-care: when you love yourself well, you want the best for yourself and you associate only with people who know how to treat you well and know how to show you that they are interested enough to start a relationship.

The key is to leave soon – the sooner the better – and stop replying to their messages when there are any.

You have to try not to deceive yourself: It is not fair that there is only communication when the other person wants something from us. They are not taking care of us at all when they leave us in suspense for hours and days. The only thing they are showing us is that it really is not important to them whether or not we are in their lives.

So when they don’t reply to our messages it is best not to insist and forget about the relationship as soon as possible. It must be left behind immediately so that it does not steal our time, energy and attention. And focus on people who are interested, who do want to and who show it to us without any problems. Sounds very sensible, right?