Talking to you out loud, a sign of sanity

When we are little, we tend to think out loud or express each of our thoughts orally. Vygotsky called this “private speech” and it is an essential practice for our early development. As we grow and mature, the thought process detaches itself from speech and becomes internalized. But did you know that talking to yourself out loud can be considered a sign of sanity?

Talk to you out loud as an adult

According to renowned professor and researcher in the field of child development, Laura E. Berk, the need to talk out loud to yourself never goes away. In fact, private speech can resurface in those moments in life when we have to deal with activities that are very demanding or unfamiliar. On a psychic level, this represents a very useful resource for acquiring new skills and overcoming challenges.

Talking out loud to yourself? Doesn’t that mean you’re really sick? What are you going crazy? Not at all. This practice can even be beneficial if you know how to do it.

Very simple: helps you clarify your thoughts, make decisions or reaffirm those you have already made. But keep in mind just one detail: talking to yourself will only benefit you if you talk to yourself with respect.

Unfortunately, There are people who reproach themselves for things and treat themselves badly. They say things such as: “You should have realized that before.”, “what an idiot you have been” either “You should have done such and such”.

Talking to you this way is worse than total silence. So if this is your style, make an effort to stop talking to yourself like this immediately. Address yourself as if you were your best friend, because you are. Forgive yourself, repeat yourself, understand yourself and trust yourself.

4 ways to talk to you

There are four ways to talk to yourself that will help you feel much better. Stop shaming yourself for talking to yourself out loud and start making the most of it:

1. Think about your options out loud

This is useful, especially if you are having a hard time making a decision, when you are at a crossroads and finding the process of choosing difficult. If you can listen to what you think, you will easily put your ideas in order.e, you will be able to see the possible alternatives more clearly and you will be able to make the decision that makes you feel better.

2. Motivate yourself

It’s a good way to encourage you to do things you may not feel like doing., but they are necessary. You can tell yourself, for example, “Good morning, how about today we take advantage of the day to tidy up the house?” Also “h Hello, today without fail you have to call the accountant and catch up on the paperwork, before they fine.”. Likewise, of the type “cheer up! You can do it because you have prepared yourself for this moment.”

3. Congratulate you

Why expect compliments from others? If you deserve them, you can always give the compliments yourself. Furthermore, most people are not aware of or do not even notice the small achievements they achieve. For example, when they pass in front of the bakery without buying anything, because they have decided to lose weight, or when they finally managed to finish that task that they wanted to finish for so long and that has cost them sleepless nights.

Doesn’t that deserve a “good job!”? Of course, children hear this kind of thing all the time, and adults hardly ever. Let’s fix that now!

4. Set goals

Let’s say you’re trying to plan your vacation. Setting a goal and making a plan (where to go, when to go, etc.) can be a big help. Of course you could just make a list of those things, but Saying it out loud can help you focus your attention, reinforce the message, control your emotions, and eliminate distractions..

Professional athletes do it all the time, they say things like “keep your head down, stare at the ball, breathe deeply”. If it works for them, why shouldn’t it work for you too?

Clarification : On certain occasions, actually talking to yourself could be a sign of mental illness (along with other indicators). But in these cases, the subject usually also hears voices to which he responds. In other words, the person generally does not dialogue with himself, but rather does so with an interlocutor that he considers real, but who does not really exist. Likewise, these messages are often incomprehensible or have little logic.

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