Stop complaining – GOOD FORM

Do you consider yourself a complainer? Are you realizing that everyone around you just complains and does nothing to change? Whether at work, at home, on social media or in informal conversations, the complaint seems to be always present. However, it is important to reflect on this trend and understand the importance of changing this behavior.

In this text, I will tell you the reason why we complain so much, how it affects our reality and our health, in addition to providing practical tips to break free from this habit and reap the benefits of a more positive and healthy life!

To complain, in its literal meaning, would be to cry twice! It is a way of expressing dissatisfaction or discomfort with a given situation, and it may be a natural reaction to the challenges, frustrations or injustices we face. However, constant complaining can become an extremely harmful habit.

It may even seem that complaining brings a momentary sense of relief, as if we are venting our frustrations or even serving as a form of social connection, when we meet people who share the same negative feelings (who notices this at work?!). However, it is important to realize that this behavior keeps us trapped in a victim mentality, without seeking effective solutions to change reality.

Understanding that complaining is cultivating suffering and not getting rid of it is the first step to breaking this cycle. Just talking bad about something doesn’t change the situation itself, it just feeds dissatisfaction and keeps us stuck in a negative pattern.

So, to break out of this cycle, it is essential to seek a change of perspective and adopt a more positive posture in the face of difficulties. After all, complaining doesn’t solve problems, it just keeps them alive in our minds.

A very important point that we need to pay attention to is the environment in which we are inserted, as it exerts a significant influence on our mentality. If we are always surrounded by people who complain and have a negative outlook on life, we are more likely to get carried away by this behavior. Therefore, it is important to seek healthy relationships and surround yourself with people who push us upwards, who have a positive vision and who help us to see solutions instead of problems!

Practical tips for you to reduce your complaint:

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A quota of complaints throughout the day

The first step is to realize how many times a day you are complaining, what you are complaining about and to whom (Do you only complain when you are tired? Do you only complain when others are complaining too? Do you ever wake up complaining?). Then limit the number of times you can complain. This way you will be able to train your mind to be more aware of your words and behaviors and act differently in the future.

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practice gratitude

Cultivating a sense of gratitude for the good things in life is an effective way to combat complaining. Daily, take a moment to list at least three things you are grateful for, this will help turn your mind towards the positive.

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seek solutions

Instead of just complaining, focus on finding solutions to problems that arise. “What can I do to improve this situation?” or “What are the actions I can take to change my reality?”. Taking responsibility for your circumstances is empowering and liberating. Don’t expect that by complaining about something others around you will solve your problem! Learn to solve it yourself or ask for help.

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practice empathy

Before complaining, try to put yourself in the other’s shoes (or even yourself) and understand the reasons behind certain actions or situations. Empathy helps us adopt a more compassionate perspective and deal with difficulties more constructively.

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Focus on self improvement

Instead of complaining about the faults of others or circumstances, focus on your own personal growth. Identify areas where you can improve and commit to working on them. Take responsibility for your own happiness and evolution. “What can I do differently in this situation?”

As you stop complaining and adopt a more positive attitude, you will experience an increase in your satisfaction and emotional well-being. Gratitude and focus on solutions bring a sense of inner peace and contentment. A more resilient mindset is also developed, instead of feeling defeated by problems, one finds an ability to face them with courage and determination.

People who complain constantly become annoying and can alienate others, so by changing this behavior you will attract people who value your company and inspire an atmosphere of support and mutual growth.

Constant stress and negativity can have a negative impact on physical health, so stopping complaining and adopting a more positive outlook can reduce stress levels, improve your immune system and increase overall vitality.

Complaining may seem like a temporary release, but it’s actually a cycle that traps us and keeps our focus on problems instead of solutions. Remember, change starts with you, and the benefits of stopping complaining extend not just to your health, but to every aspect of your life.

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Hi, my name is Priscila Conte Vieira, but you can call me Pri! I am a psychologist, speaker and mentor. I work in clinical psychology, I’m a specialist in Positive Psychology, postgraduate student in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, master in self-knowledge, life coach, NLP practitioner and also creator of the Podcast Breathe, don’t freak out (how about checking it out on Spotify?!)

I’ll be here every week, addressing themes of Positive Psychology, happiness, well-being and helping them to be their best versions, through self-knowledge and flourishing. To find out more about me and follow me on a daily basis, just follow me on Instagram! I’m there like @psi.priscilaconte See you next Saturday! See you <3