Soulmates separate for a while. What are the 5 stages?

It’s exciting to finally find your soul mate. Your mirror soul.

That being said, the possibility of breaking up, as in any relationship, is always there.

Although no one is immune to this painful process, you should know that it is not the end.

Every soulmate relationship is subject to these five stages of separation:

1) The stage of the conflict (“The Test”)

Once you meet your soul mate, you feel a click, an awakening. It’s like everything was meant to be.

You have finally found the person who is your ideal partner. You can’t help but fall in love with him.

But just when you think everything is fine and they’re perfect for each other, conflict arises.

It is a stage that occurs in both traditional and soulmate relationships.

Once the honeymoon period is over, certain aspects of your soulmate may start to irritate you. It is your mirror soul, after all.

If there is something you hate about yourself, you will surely see it reflected in your soul mate.

As you would expect, you may find some of their behavior really infuriating. And the same thing may happen to him.

No matter who starts the confrontation, the relationship will end up crashing.

Conflict resolution

Conflicts do not necessarily have to escalate to the next stage: crisis.

You and your twin flame can work it out through some method of conflict resolution:

Acknowledge the situation. Both must accept the fact that a conflict is brewing. And most importantly, be honest about your thoughts, emotions, etc. Allow your soulmate to express their feelings. It is not prudent to suppress emotions for fear of offending the other. You both need to express your feelings, no matter how unpleasant they may be. Define the problem. What is generating the conflict? How is it affecting your soulmate relationship? Determine what you both need. Conflict resolution does not mean deciding who is right and who is wrong. They must create a solution that they both find acceptable. To get to this, both must analyze their needs. Find areas of agreement. You both need to agree on the problem, the resulting fears, and the changes that need to be made. Allow to brainstorm solutions. A soul mate’s proposal may not be “enough” for the other. If you don’t want the conflict to become a crisis, both of you need to think about solutions that can address your needs.

2) The crisis stage

The most expected thing is that problems occur in any relationship, even the one you share with your soul mate.

The only difference is the way you and your mirror soul handle the situation.

If they manage to solve their problems hand in hand, then they will be able to avoid the crisis.

But if not, they will inevitably head to the dreaded “pursue and escape stage”.

Dealing with the soulmate relationship crisis

According to relationship therapist Dr. Randi Gunther, here are some ways you can help ease the crisis brewing:

Look inside. It’s all about strengthening your twin flame bond. You need to solve this crisis with your heart and mind together. Trust in your strengths. Think about the characteristics that have made you and your relationship strong. For example, you could both be emotionally mature. Use these strengths to your advantage. Prevent power leakage. When a relationship is in crisis, the energies of both parties are drained, physically, emotionally and spiritually. It is crucial to prevent these drains, as it can make one less tolerant in the relationship. Stop being pessimistic. Becoming cynical can prevent both of us from focusing on the right solutions. Ask for help if you think it is necessary. The crisis can be overwhelming. Sometimes an outside look can be of great help.

3) The Stage of Fleeing and Pursuing (Separation)

It is the phase that many soul mates despise: the chase.

The beginning of the separation.

Unfortunately, this stage is unavoidable. It can be as short as a few weeks, but it could also last for several months or even years.

“It will come out no matter how you worked in the previous stage,” according to relationship expert Mary J. Gibson.

the one who flees

One of the two will flee when that mirror soul is frightened or intimidated by the bond they share.

You feel that you cannot handle the problems at the moment.

You will need to escape and protect yourself from any potential suffering.

In addition to leaving the relationship, the runaway may avoid/ignore their soul mate.

You may seek comfort from other people, especially one with whom you feel you are “safe.”

They could even end up turning to vices, such as alcohol or drugs.

The pursuer

If there is someone who runs away in the relationship, then there is also the soulmate chaser.

Often they are the ones left heartbroken when their mirror soul slips away.

Unfortunately, the more this person “chases” the other, the more likely their soul mate will run away.

As the pursuer in the relationship, you may feel devastated when your mirror soul left you.

Psychics call this terrible feeling the ‘dark night of the soul’.

It is a time when you feel lost and depressed, as if life has no meaning.

Although this feeling is deeply painful, it provides a light at the end of the tunnel.

As you trudge through this dark night, you will feel a new version of you being reborn.

Why do soulmates break up?

Twin flame separation does not happen just because of one cause. There are many reasons why you walk away from your mirror soul. The main one is that it is a process of spiritual growth and evolution.

And then other instances can exist:

Your soul mate is not ready yet

Most of the time, a mirror soul, who runs away, is not yet ready for a passionate relationship.

They feel the need to run away and abandon their soul mate, leaving the other party to chase them.

In addition to being unprepared, the fleeing party may not be as emotionally or spiritually mature as their soul mate.

Simply put, if one is growing but the other is not, the relationship will fall out of alignment.

When a soul lacks self-love, the relationship can end up plagued by jealousy or codependency.

This happens when one of the two believes that they need the other to complete it. The truth is, soul mates or not, we first need to feel complete ourselves.

One or both parties still need to grow

The timing may be good, but the relationship will not succeed if one (or both souls) still needs to grow.

Although it is possible to ‘grow’ together, some may see separation as the best way out. Or the only one.

It happens because “someone feels stuck and (feels) that they are not the best version of themselves,” explains psychotherapist Dr. Annette Núñez.

“The relationship can only last if it is based on mutual growth,” adds Dr. Shannon Kaiser.

you have learned your lesson

You and your soul mate have crossed many lifetimes to teach each other a lesson.

Once you’ve learned what you need to know, the separation may be inevitable, at least for now.

Remember: this is not the end of the road.

Perhaps the timing is not right for now, so you and your mirror soul may need to wait a little longer before meeting.

Separation grief, illness and depression

Just like with any other breakup, being separated from your soul mate can be very painful.

Some describe it as something so intense and unbearable that they felt incapacitated for a while.

It feels like all your hopes and dreams have been crushed, and your life is just an endless void.

As a result, many estranged soul mates find themselves depressed.

Contrary to popular belief, it is not just the hunter who feels this pain and depression.

Who flees also feels this agony.

They miss their mirror soul in the same way, although they believe that it is not wise to reunite with their partner just yet.

In addition to emotional pain, separated twin flames may also feel physical manifestations. Some have expressed feeling stomach and chest pains, among many other symptoms.

Synchronicities during separation

During the separation stage, both the chaser and the runner may experience synchronicities. These are events that remind you of your soul mate.

They are often mysterious or coincidental because they cannot be explained by the usual cause and effect.

Examples of synchronicities include:

Permanent separation?

While soul mates who have parted ways are destined to be reunited soon, some part ways permanently.

Unfortunately, this often happens when one (or both) parties refuse to heal or grow. As a result, they get stuck in a low vibration.

But equally, the separation can be permanent even if the soul mates manage to evolve.

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4) Surrender

As a “chaser,” you may have done everything you could to win back your soul mate.

Unfortunately, the more you chase them, the more they will get away from you.

With that said, it’s time to surrender and surrender.

As DatingScout.com founder Chris Pleines explains, “You have to give up the need to control.”

Keep in mind that you are only letting go of control, not the entire connection to your soul mate.

As Gibson says: “Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up the connection, it means accepting that you can’t escape fate.”

At this delivery stage, there are eight things you can do to help you navigate it:

love yourself first

As mentioned, a lack of self-love is one of the reasons why soulmates break up.

It’s hard to love someone if you don’t fully love yourself first.

If you want to reunite with your mirror soul, you have to accept who you are, flaws and all.

Take advantage of this time alone to be your own company, get to know you and accept yourself in all your facets.

accept separation

When you learn to love yourself…