Sometimes staying is going too far

Saying “goodbye” can become one of the most difficult processes in a relationship (whether it’s a couple or not). We make some reflections about it in this article.

There are times when we want to stay, that we would give anything to have reasons to do so but, nevertheless, we have no choice but to fly. Because sometimes, staying is going too far.

Saying goodbye are big words. Considering reaching a point of “no return” distresses us, so we get tired of “see you later”, of putting ellipses where there is a full stop and saying goodbye even if our soul hurts.

“And one day, without you expecting it, I left. Without goodbye, without prior notice, or reproaches. Because sometimes staying is going too far.”

-The light of Candela-

Let’s say it’s a question of emotional health. Somehow, if we want everything to stay the same we must allow everything to change. And it is that When we say goodbye our soul reverberates but it is the only way to close the window to pain, disappointment and disenchantment.

Sometimes in life you have to choose, other times life chooses you

When the snake has to shed its old skin, it chooses to walk over two nearby stones that squeeze, scratch and help it remove its skin. This transit causes pain, but it helps you get rid of the old to make room for the new.

It is the end of one process and the beginning of another. And in that transit we suffer. If we resist going through it, the anguish increases, because we do not let go of what no longer contributes to us, what we do not need, nor do we give space to what wants to be born. Staying is not the option to free ourselves.

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It’s funny how we undress when it’s colder. We do not allow ourselves to know anything other than the burning fire and the intense cold. The point is that we know what we have to do long before we make the decision, before we even start thinking about it.

It is normal that we resist taking the step, but what is clear is that When we dare to say goodbye we begin to build healthy and positive relationships, to not feel that emotional emptiness that devours the insides and to truly value the people who deserve to be in our lives.

Now I’m leaving.

I’ll be gone any minute.

I think you’ll realize, I think you’ll wonder what went wrong.

It’s not that I choose it, but I no longer have the strength to fight.

I decided a long time ago. I decided last night…

To let go is to let arrive

Imagine that you reduce the chains that are squeezing you and keeping you tied to the size of a helium balloon. Then you let it go; You look at him as he heads towards the sky and you lose sight of him, smiling and feeling great inner peace.

It is likely that when you say goodbye something inside you will break , but this is the only way to welcome what is truly worthwhile, instead of staying. Well, not sorrow, joy.

Because If you are brave enough to say goodbye, you will realize that it is precisely that weight that you lift off your shoulders. Perhaps it is because you are going to allow yourself to reach your ideal temperature and not that intense cold or scorching heat to which you live subjected.

“It is always necessary to know when a stage of life is over. If you insist on staying in it beyond the necessary time, you lose the joy and meaning of the rest. Closing circles, or closing doors, or closing chapters, whatever you want to call it.

The important thing is to be able to close them, and let go of moments of life that are closing.

We can not be in the present longing for the past. Not even wondering why. What happened, happened, and you have to let go, you have to let go. We cannot be eternal children, nor late adolescents, nor employees of non-existent companies, nor have ties with those who do not want to be linked to us.

“Events happen and we have to let them go!”

-Paulo Coelho-