Sometimes I like someone to tell me that everything is going to be okay.

I am a strong person, one of those who life has bitten more than once. However, I like someone to hold my hand from time to time and tell me that everything is going to be okay. Promise me that there is much to do and little to worry about. Feeling this need is not weakness, but the courage of someone who appreciates good support and comfort when they need it.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery said very correctly that failure strengthens the strong. This is so for a very simple reason: for one to acquire adequate strength of heart and build the foundation of courage, one must first have fallen. First you must experience the wound of disappointment, the emptiness of loss, and the mark of error on your own skin.

Everything is going to turn out well in the end, and if it doesn’t… It’s not the end yet.

Thus, and since this type of profile is a great understander of the secret craft of repairing those internal cracks, only they, the strong people, understand what it means to receive from time to time a hopeful word and a helping hand that is offered to them. lift them up. In a world with everyone’s back turned, support is good. In a moment of adversity, even the best of heroes and the brightest of heroines are grateful when someone tells them that everything is going to be okay.…because if you live by anything, it is by faith.

A secret need: emotional hunger

Already in 1920, Edward Throndike understood Emotional Intelligence as a ““ability to understand people, helping them to act wisely in their relationships.” Furthermore, he also said that If there is a dimension that usually characterizes human beings, it is “emotional hunger.”. All of us sometimes need more support than we receive, more consideration than we are given, more recognition and even, why not, a more present, more tangible affection.

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However, If there is something that most self-help books recommend to us, it is that we learn to “self-sufficient”. That is, we must put into practice appropriate strategies to have good self-love, resilient self-esteem and a strong personality with which to overcome any adversity. While it is true that all of this is positive and even recommendable, There is a nuance that should be very clear.

The person who invests in their personal growth and psychological strengths should not fall to the extreme of practicing such aggressive “self-sufficiency,” where they stop needing anything from anyone. Because Sometimes, those who do not need anything, do not offer anything either and almost without realizing it end up practicing authentic emotional materialism.

The key is balance and understanding that a strong person is not someone immune to suffering, nor insensitive nor lacking in feelings. The strong are those who one day allowed themselves to be weak and who, inside, continue to suffer the imprint of adversity, therefore they more than anyone should not only give support, but also allow themselves to receive those emotional caresses with which to satisfy their hunger, with which to continue healing their silent wounds.

Everything will be fine, trust me

We all need someone to hold our hand at some point in our lives and tell us that everything is going to be okay. There are moments like this, those where self-confidence does not reach, those where good self-esteem does not guarantee success, resolution or a good outcome. There are specific moments when nothing is so cathartic, sharing burdens, lightening the weight of fears and the gnawing of worries..

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It is known, for example, that those doctors who hold their patients’ hands and offer them positive, warm and hopeful messages manage to reduce fear and anxiety in patients. Likewise, few painkillers are as comforting as that father or mother capable of quelling their children’s concerns, inviting them to trust, telling them that everything is going to be fine.

There are times, and this happens to all of us, when the brain becomes cloudy and mental darkness appears. Because negative thoughts have the bad habit of being resistant, of being like tin that assembles negativity with sadness, uncertainty with chaos.

When this happens, when the horsemen of fear ride free, we do not always manage to apply that rational approach where we understand that a defeat is not a catastrophe or that a disappointment is not the end of the world.

In those moments a helping hand, a clear mind and a willing heart can work miracles.weakness

Having someone tell us that everything is going to be okay helps. Let them remind us that in life everything comes and everything passes, it relieves. Having someone hold our hand and promise to be with us no matter what happens gives us peace of mind and great peace. Let us then learn to accept help, to be humble and allow ourselves to receive what others freely give us.. Above all, let us also be capable of offering others the best of ourselves to create more receptive, stronger and healthier environments from an emotional point of view.

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