She wants me as a friend, but she is looking for me: Guide to win her over

You know for sure, you are his friend.

Everything she does when you’re together makes it clear to you, right?

Although, there are times when he leaves you with the strange feeling that he meant “something else.”

The way he looks at you from time to time, or the “saucy” comments he makes in conversation.

Let’s face it, she’s your friend, but she’s looking for you…

And, surely, this causes you confusion. Does he like you or are you in the friendzone?

Here you will discover 12 ways to know if there is something more than friendship between you.

And I’ll explain why I might not want to be with you (yet).

In addition, I will share 10 tips so that you can finally win her over.

Let’s get started!

Are you in the friend zone?

Do you know what the friendzone is?

According to UrbanDictionary, it is about,

“a particularly irritating metaphorical place where people end up when someone they’re interested in just wants them to be friends.”

So, it is a friendship between two people, where one tends to fall in love.

But the other one, no. She is only interested in maintaining a friendship bond.

Once this friend zone is established, it’s a bit difficult to get out of it.

Since it is difficult to forget her, because, as friends, they still see each other frequently.

And this doesn’t help to erase her from your mind.

And, at the same time, it’s even more difficult, because you can’t be with her in the way you really want.

I guess there is no human being on earth who has not been through this situation at some time.

OK, maybe I’m exaggerating a bit, but it’s quite common to have feelings for someone who appreciates your friendship.

And even more common is to be totally confused with that person.

Especially if it is a friend who is giving you mixed signals.

Or he is playing with your expectations that he may not see you as another friend.

So do you really want to be friends or not?

The novelist Albert Camus says that,

“Friendship can become love. Love in friendship. . . Never.”

There is hope…

How to know if there is something more than friendship

You will surely love spending time with her.

And as you share these moments, she may be giving you mixed signals.

Gestures, words, attitudes, movements, touches….

Here I will reveal an important key about women:

“Everything, absolutely everything has a reason in a woman.”

Trust me, we don’t usually do things lightly.

In the words of one man, the famous playwright Oscar Wilde said,

“If you want to know what a woman really says, look at her, don’t listen to her.”

So, if she wants to let you know that she likes you, she will point it out to you.

Here I leave you 12 clues to find out.

12 ways to know if she wants something more with you

1) Conversations

The quality of the conversations you have will say a lot about your type of bond.

Have you noticed if he treats you differently when talking to you? Are you his confidant?

How much do you really know about her?

Do they have endless conversations about any topic?

If so, it means that he really likes you. Which is a good sign.

But in order to understand if he really likes you, you need to pay attention to the quality of the conversation.

How much information he releases when talking to you and what topics he deals with, he will let you know.

An example? It is not the same to talk about her sister telling you that she snores at night.

To tell you that she likes to sleep naked.

The intention is totally different…

2) Time spent together

It is also important that you evaluate the quality and quantity of time you spend together.

Surely, she invites you to accompany her everywhere.

Outings with your groups of friends, family events, etc.

But, pay attention to how much time he spends with you in those places.

If you want to be with you and she feels comfortable, she will be attached to you at all times and places.

And, surely, she invites you to places with which she could go with her “boyfriend.”

For example, going to the movies, dancing or having a couple of drinks at night, alone.

If they are out with friends, they may try to separate you from the group so they have privacy.

He usually sets up appointments or outings that could generate intimacy between you.

3) She’s naughty with you

Perhaps, within the conversations they have, she will be willing to talk more.

What do I mean?

It is very common for women to release sexy information about themselves to feed your imagination.

In fact, it’s a classic strategy for us.

It is also common for us to take you with the conversation towards more spicy topics.

And, without realizing it, you end up talking about what is your favorite position from the Kamasutra book.

If she does this frequently, it’s clear that she wants something more.

Or that it amuses him to see your reaction and how you blush when talking about this.

You don’t need to lie, I know your temperature rises if she talks to you about this.

It is possible that he is attracted to you, or that he is playing you. Pay attention.

4) Looks

An article in InvestigaciónyCiencia says that how someone gazes can indicate love.

If she stares at you, gawking, more times than usual, it may be a sign of falling in love.

If, instead, his gaze focuses on your mouth or the rest of his body often, he may have sexual desire.

Whatever it was, if you feel his gaze rest on you, you’re on his conquest radar.

5) is attentive to you

Does he look for you at all times? Do you want to know where you are?

If you go on a trip, is he waiting for your return?

If he often writes to you on WhatsApp or calls you to see how you are doing, you are important.

But if you notice that he misses you and tells you. It’s a sign that she can’t be without you.

6) It makes you jealous

She talks about all the men who ask her out.

Or how her coworker can’t stop looking at her.

He even shows you what he has written so you can tell him what it means.

There are two analysis options for these attitudes.

You are his faithful friend and he really needs your advice as a man. He wants to make you jealous and make you realize that he likes you.

How to differentiate it? With the type of information that I give you about it.

If she tells you absolutely everything and won’t stop talking about this guy, she’s probably crazy about him.

If instead, he mentions it in passing from time to time and pay attention to your reaction to doing so.

Or, he even asks you, “are you jealous?” DEFINITELY, she does it on purpose.

7) She is possessive

They are with friends and another friend spends time with you, but she tries to get you out of there.

Or, if a new woman approaches you, she automatically grabs your arm and whispers something in your ear.

He is marking ground and he wants everyone to know it.

8) He is interested in you

She is attentive to your day to day and pays attention to your tastes and interests.

He surprises you from time to time with gifts or entertainment, or reminds you of things or appointments that you might forget.

I mean, she’s unintentionally acting like your girlfriend.

9) Doesn’t tell you everything

If having these endless conversations and telling intimacies doesn’t tell you everything, pay attention.

When one seduces the other, it is normal for them to release the information that is convenient for them to stand out.

I mean, he won’t tell you about waxing details. Or he will tell you about his bodily defects.

Much less, of his hobbies or anecdotes that generate shame.

She wants you to perceive her as well as possible.

10) She is flirtatious

She is always scented and lined up when they see each other.

Look for you to praise her and realize how pretty she is.

She even always wears the perfume that you have told her you love or wears makeup.

It is likely that he is trying to flirt with you.

11) Body language

According to an article by ScienceOfPeople, women have a certain body language when seducing.

She will seek to accidentally touch you, for example brushing against your chest when greeting you.

His face will indicate that he wants you, for example: staring into your eyes while biting his lip.

Or maybe, he looks at your mouth when speaking.

Another way to let you know is how he uses his legs when sitting in front of you.

Have you noticed if he crosses them slowly with sensuality? Does she look at you while doing it?

12) He admires you

The French writer George Sand said,

“Don’t love who you don’t admire. Love without admiration is only friendship.”

If she’s feeling more than friendship, she’s probably falling in love.

One of the typical characteristics of this is the admiration for who attracts us.

Pay attention if he praises what you do or say.

Or if she mentions to her friends or family how important you are to her.

Even if you talk to others about your achievements or goals.

If he does, he probably has a deep admiration for you.

Why don’t you want to be with me?

If you have noticed that several characteristics of the previous list are fulfilled, you will be wondering this:

Why don’t you want to be with me? What is holding her back?

Although Gregory Maguire says,

“Wisdom is not in understanding the mystery, but in accepting that it cannot be understood.”

I won’t be so cruel to you.

Here I will explain 4 possible reasons why she might not be sure to take the next step.

1) He is playing you

He may love being with you, and may even feel sexual desire for you.

But not enough to take the next step.

Does he only look for you when it suits him? Does your temperature rise with deliberate gestures or rubbing and leaves?

Does she demand that you listen to her and be there for her, but is she never there for you?

He may enjoy having you at his feet, and this raises his self-esteem.

This means that he is only thinking about her, and not about how he might hurt your feelings.

2) Fear of commitment

The fear of commitment is linked to a fear of falling in love or emotionally connecting with someone.

They are people who fear taking the next step and do not want to take risks in the ties they have.

The psychologist Ilisa Kaufman explains about this that,

“Commitment phobia is not uncommon (…) With social media and dating apps, people have so many choices that it’s hard for them to make a decision.”

If you are a person who fears this, you will not be attracted to having a partner, because the partner is a possibility of conflict.

Therefore, look for affection in a person who can provide it, such as a friend.

The friendzone gives you the security that, since there is no partner, there will be no conflict, no risk of loss.

3) He knows what you’re up to

There is a belief that if a man befriends a woman, he only has one thing on his mind: SEX.

And, although, I am giving you the benefit of the doubt. That is, your intentions may be others.

Every woman knows this.

It’s like there’s a universal law that says if a man works hard with a woman, he’ll be rewarded in bed.

And we all have this in mind when a man approaches us:

Alert, he wants sex!

Do not misunderstand. This does not mean that she does not want to do it with you.

She may be very attracted to you, and she wants to advance as much as you do.

But, if this is not in his plans, there is only one destination: he will keep you in the friendzone.

4) He is taking it easy

She may not yet be fully decided to go for it for you.

Or he wants to get to know you even better to understand what really happens to him with you.

Sometimes, when we find ourselves vulnerable, we tend to see the person who supports us with different eyes.

Or it is for us unconditionally.

And this usually brings a lot…