The 5 meanings of dreaming of an impossible love from the past

More than once I have happened to have a vivid dream with him.

The feeling of confusion that invaded me after waking up was total and utter.

Because? Because he wasn’t a part of my life, and he never was.

It was an impossible love.

Those heartbreaking loves that leave marks on one forever.

I know you understand me. You have lived it too.

And, surely, we ask ourselves the same thing: why do we dream of an impossible love?

What makes our mind look for that person from the past over and over again?

Can you stop thinking about an impossible love?

Here I will give you five reasons that explain why we still dream of that unattainable love and more.

Shall we find out together?

The interpretation of dreams and past loves

The father of psychology, Sigmund Freud, says about it:

“…dreams can be so declared, they are hidden realizations of repressed desires.”

What Freud indicates is that dreams can reveal our deepest longings.

What we tend to repress in a conscious or awake state, comes to light when we sleep.

Dreaming of someone from the past can have an infinite number of interpretations.

In fact, there are as many interpretations as there are people in the world.

Because every dream is part of a personal universe.

That is, each person creates dreams from their experiences and personal experiences.

Therefore, understanding the reason for a dream is something very personal.

Experts indicate that what we dream is linked to what we do, live and think.

So, interpreting a dream provides information about what we consciously want.

That is, when we are awake.

But also, it helps us to better understand our unconscious longings.

As Freud indicates in The Interpretation of Dreams, dreams are linked to our emotional situation.

It doesn’t matter if it’s consciously or unconsciously. Whether you perceive it in your mind or not.

If you are longing for a love from the past, it is natural that you dream about it.

And, therefore, interpreting a dream about that impossible love helps you understand what you long for.

Is he the one you really want in your life? Or does he just represent what you want to have?

So what does it mean to dream of an impossible love?

Dreaming of someone from the past recreates emotions you had for that special someone.

Feelings that arise while conscious, that is, awake, appear in dreams.

Therefore, the feeling of falling in love that you have or had can surface when you sleep.

Dreaming of that unattainable love expresses the desire to want to be loved.

And, also, that longing to realize what you fantasized about so many times when you thought of that love.

In other words, that your impossible love corresponds to you.

Although this would be the most basic analysis to perform.

Dreaming of an unattainable love, can represent something deeper.

Above all, if that love is a love from the past.

Why do we dream of an impossible love from the past? 5 things you should know

Dreaming of an impossible love brings out your need to live a different experience.

It doesn’t necessarily have to do with that unattainable love; There are several factors to evaluate.

Here is a list of the possibilities for your interpretation:

1) It symbolizes what is missing in your current life

Is there romance, caressing, or even passionate sex in your dream?

You may be needing it.

This often happens whether we are in a relationship or not.

Surely you have had a fiery bond that could not be.

Or your sexual fantasies with that impossible love were spectacular.

In that case, your mind may be reminding you of what you always wanted.

Or what you crave most in a partner: fire.

2) You have a repressed desire

If you are in a relationship, perhaps passion is absent and your dreams are reminding you of it.

Dreaming of that distant impossible reveals to you, without guilt of infidelity, what you want most today:

a lover.

You may also be wishing for more romance in your life.

Or, that your current partner pays you as much attention as the man of your dreams did before.

Dreaming of that impossible love from the past means that you need to rescue an emotion.

And that, clearly, this feeling of romance, passion or attention, is not in your life today.

3) It is an unsurpassed love

Dreaming about him can suggest that you are not over him yet.

Or that whatever has prevented you from achieving, is something that you have not yet accepted.

Therefore, your mind keeps on hovering over those emotions and desires from time to time.

This often happens when, as if by magic, you wonder what will become of your life?

You find yourself thinking about that distant love, that could not be but that still makes you vibrate.

When this happens, clearly that person still resonates with you.

Whatever you lived (or not) together is still latent in you and you haven’t let it go.

You may not know it, but you still have feelings for him.

Internally you have hopes of crossing it around the corner.

You still harbor the hope that it will materialize and be a reality.

That is, to return to your life and be part of it.

4) Changes in your current life

You have started a new couple, or are about to do so.

The fear of taking the step may be generating dreams that link you to the past.

Dreaming of something familiar and that made you feel good, like an impossible love, gives you an escape.

In this sense, linking yourself with the past protects you from fear of the future.

Surely you have had painful breakups, but have faith in yourself.

Whatever is to come will have something good waiting for you.

5) Our ego needs it

Sometimes our daily routine demands more and imposes stressful situations on us.

This generates mixed emotions and can make us feel unappreciated.

Dreaming of an idealized love from the past is a useful resource of our mind.

Since it provides immediate well-being.

In dreams, our ego may design the stage and what happens in it according to convenience.

That is, our wishes come true, our ego gets what it longs for:

full attention and appreciation.

In dreams, our impossible love corresponds to our whim.

What is your impossible love?

I know that you are very clear that impossible love exists.

It is a type of relationship that cannot be given. We’ve all had a love like this at some point.

The variants for a love to be impossible can be thousands.

Do you know exactly what yours is?

Some could be:

* You are his fan and they don’t know each other

Who has not ever fallen in love with a celebrity?

There are loves of very devoted fans who think of their celebrity as someone they know.

And their fanaticism invites them to think like that too.

Since the media help them to know everything about him.

And that confuses anyone. I know it will sound pessimistic, but reality is knocking at your door.

And the truth is, what are the real chances that you will ever meet him?

*It’s a virtual love

Have you met online and still can’t see each other?

He tells you that it’s never the time and you’re not sure why he doesn’t want to see you.

Beyond the obvious reason which could be physical distance, be careful.

He may not be who he says he is.

*Because there is too big an age difference between you and him

Society is changing its taboos regarding the age difference in couples.

But it’s hard to carry a relationship forward if you’re separated by a gap in life experience.

A very common example is that of those couples in which one of them was already a father.

In these cases, the couple is “impossible” because the life plan of each one is different.

Since one of them wants to start a family while the other has already lived it.

*Because there is a physical distance that isolates the couple

You may live in Spain and he in Denmark. The distance makes it impossible.

*It is a secret love

He may not know that you secretly love him.

Maybe you are not confident enough to confess your love.

Or something stronger than you, like a wound from the past, prevents you from doing it.

*For fear of commitment

There are people who cannot extend a relationship beyond a period of time and then disengage from it, even though they are totally in love.

Whatever the reason, an impossible love has no chance of coming true.

And despite being painful, people often choose to keep them alive only in their mind.

This is why they are usually considered as a platonic love.

*Other reasons why it is an impossible love

Perhaps it is unrequited love.
One of you is already engaged and can’t or doesn’t want to leave your current partner. Due to personal decisions that distance them: religion or sexual orientation, among others. They have drifted apart and lost track of each other. For example: a summer love.

Why is an impossible love considered platonic?

This type of love is a feeling based on idealized love or fantasy.

The desired person is a perfect being who has only good qualities.

Having a platonic love at some point in life is normal.

But you must be careful that it does not become an obsession.

When this happens, it often leads to frustration or disappointment.

Since the person you long for is unattainable and noticing this makes you sad.

If you are lost in a platonic love, keep the following in mind:

“Your love is based on an idealization.”

It cannot go beyond what your mind allows.

And guess who controls your mind?

That’s right, you and only you can reverse this situation.

The danger of idealization

Freud defines idealization as:

«…a process that involves the object, without changing its nature, this is magnified and enhanced psychically.»

A bit confusing, right? Here I explain it to you.

What Freud means is that idealizing the couple consists in attributing positive qualities to them.

These characteristics surround the person and make him better than he really is.

It may be that in your mind you visualize him more handsome, or braver, or charming.

And that you only keep in mind its remarkable qualities.

That is, when you think of him, you think of his virtues.

And you usually separate what is considered bad or negative from the person you idealize.

It is very likely that, when you really meet him, you will suffer a great disappointment.

Since you are in love with a mental image, something that does not correspond to reality.

It is an impossible relationship because it is difficult to achieve and in part you choose that it be so.

By choosing to think about an impossible love, you choose to lose yourself in a fantasy.

Why do we choose an impossible love?

I know it’s hard to believe, but sometimes it’s easier to fall in love with love.

What do I mean by this?

Because the idea of ​​being with someone is safer than really being with that someone.

When it comes to relationships, there are risks to take that can go wrong.

Breakups, infidelities, irrecoverable losses, exposure of ourselves.

Being in a couple implies opening up completely to the other and being vulnerable.

And this is not a risk suitable for everyone.

Above all, if you have already had bad experiences before and do not want to suffer again.

An impossible love is a moldable love. A love of our entire authorship.

Living a platonic love allows us to imagine it at will.

It is less risky to put your fantasy into action than it is to face possible disappointment.

Reality can bring us pleasant surprises, but also unexpected situations.

One Love…