Respect yourself! – GOOD SHAPE

Can you recognize your limits, impose your needs, respect yourself and do it without feeling guilty afterwards? Being able to execute this is liberating and necessary for mental health!

Pausing during the day and realizing yourself is the first step to understanding what you need and what is happening inside you before thinking about an action. Being able to look at ourselves with the eyes through which we observe others, after all, we tend to be more attentive to the needs of others and want to please them more than ourselves and we need to learn to implement this in our lives as well.

There are times when we think about giving up when in fact we just need to rest, there are times when we say yes to someone or to some commitment when we really want to say no, there are times when we think we are hungry but it was actually stress or even thirsty, there are times when we swallow our wills to please the other…

I remember a lot of a story I heard about cutting bread and I want to share it with you. For 25 years a lady cut bread during breakfast and gave a specific portion to her husband, always thinking that that was the best part and that she was giving the best she could to her beloved. However, she had never asked which part was her husband’s favorite, until one day she found out that he preferred the part that stayed with her and that he also gave away what he thought was best, believing that he was pleasing his wife.

Moral of the story: our wills need to be said, after all, nobody reads the other’s mind! What’s best for one is not always for the other and doing just to please may not please you that much.

That is, don’t be afraid to expose yourself, don’t be afraid to make the best choices for yourself! Everything with balance and assertiveness works well! Of course, in some moments we will give in, but as long as it is not dysfunctional or that it does not hurt us or others.

And most importantly: there’s nothing wrong with imposing your limits!!!! You don’t have to feel guilty for choosing to say yes to yourself, you don’t have to feel bad for displeasing others! Life is made of choices and I wouldn’t want you to spend a lifetime pleasing others and displeasing yourself out there! It’s not fair to live unhappy to try to make the other happy.

It’s not fair to us that other people decide only for them and make choices without considering our wishes too! That’s why we need to learn to say what we need to, with assertiveness and respect, so that we can find healthy solutions for everyone.

I hope that you reflect on your wishes, on your limits and that you can discover new ways to express yourself, to respect and validate yourself!

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Hi, my name is Priscila Conte Vieira, but you can call me Pri! I am a psychologist, speaker and mentor. I work in clinical psychology, I’m a specialist in Positive Psychology, postgraduate student in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, master in self-knowledge, life coach, NLP practitioner and also creator of the Podcast Breathe, don’t freak out (how about checking it out on Spotify?!)

I’ll be here every week, addressing themes of Positive Psychology, happiness, well-being and helping them to be their best versions, through self-knowledge and flourishing. To find out more about me and follow me on a daily basis, just follow me on Instagram! I’m there like @psi.priscilaconte See you next Saturday! See you <3