Resilience, being strong despite the storms

There are people who are characterized by their great capacity for resilience. They are those that have as their weapon their ability to stay afloat in the face of difficulties and as their main support the vision of difficulty as learning.

They know that immunity to suffering is impossible and they understand that the storms that make our days dark are also opportunities to overcome. So they gather courage and continue, having as their mantra to continue to grow, despite adversity.

“When there is a storm, the little birds hide but the eagles fly higher.”

-Mahatma Gandhi-

Be resilient on a daily basis

Resilience is a concept that has acquired great relevance in recent years. Especially from those perspectives, such as positive psychology, that are more interested in investigating the characteristics that allow people to overcome adversity, leaving in the background the understanding of those factors that increase the probability of a mental disorder.

Being resilient from psychology is being able to face adversity and come out stronger.

When we talk about resilience we usually think of traumatic events, such as the loss of a loved one, surviving an accident or situations of abuse… But in our daily lives there are also complex situations that we have to face. A catastrophe does not need to happen, overcoming any daily difficulty such as facing criticism, managing to improve yourself or starting the day with a smile after a time of sadness is also being resilient.

We all have our own battles to deal with and our own resources to deal with them in one way or another, we just have to discover them.

Characteristics of resilient people

There are people who are resilient because they have had an example of resilience to follow, such as their parents or a brother, but others have learned to deal with and overcome the stones on the road on their own: they have learned from trial and error, it has been done strong from their own scars.

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This tells us that Resilience is a skill that we can all develop and therefore practice. To do this, it is necessary to properly manage our thoughts and emotions.

Below we tell you some of the main characteristics of resilient people so you can start training them.

1. They know how to adapt to changes

Resilient people have, like reeds, the ability to be flexible when the wind whips strongly. They know that going against the circumstances will make them lose energy and they choose to have an open mind.

They let go of their old beliefs, prejudices and insecurities to dress in new outfits that accompany them in moments of change. But They do not adapt out of resignation, but because they know that there are other different worlds that are not wrong just because they are different.

“Water conquers everything, because it adapts to everything.”

-Lao Tse-

2. They lean on their strengths

Resilient people know each other. They know what hurts and bothers them and they understand that the fundamental support for their well-being depends on taking care of themselves. Resilient people know how to identify their weaknesses but also their strengths to put them into action when necessary.

They will use their desire to fight, their motivation, their effort and their skills as the foundation to move forward. But, above all, They respect themselves and take themselves into account because they know that knowing themselves is the fundamental step to grow and establish healthy relationships with others.

“Each person is an island unto themselves, in a very real sense, and can only build bridges to other islands if they truly want to be themselves and are willing to allow themselves to do so.”

-Carl Rogers-

3. They know that accepting is necessary to move forward

Resilient people know that acceptance is the companion ally of progress and change. Because only when we accept what happens to us can we begin to work to improve it. Otherwise, if we deny it, all we do is give it more strength.

Resilient people know that acceptance means understanding and coping, not giving up.

4. They consider that no one is immune to suffering

Being resilient does not mean that a person does not have wounds, but that despite them the adverse situation has been instructive to them in some way. He has been able to accept the pain and instead of immersing himself in it, he has chosen to learn.

Resilient people know that shielding and protecting themselves from pain is not always going to work for them, since running away would distance them from the possibility of understanding what is happening to them and continuing to grow.

As you see, being resilient can be learned and trained. In fact, it should be a fundamental teaching in schools. It is always worth learning strategies to improve and continue growing and resilience is that ability that allows us to be strong despite the wind blowing hard, adapting as best as possible to the potholes that make up losses, disappointments, traumas and the failures.

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You are also resilient, don’t forget it, or have you not overcome any difficulty or situation in your life? Think and remember that time you were brave and despite your fear, you jumped into the pool…