Real life can be even better than fairy tales –

I always loved them romantic movies, Disney princesses and all fairy tales. But I also saw myself hostage to this unreal happiness, of the exaggerated romance and ended up wanting to live something that didn’t really exist. It was when I stopped thinking about it and started living my own life that I found out that it’s even better than in those stories!

But don’t get me wrong, my life is not from another world, it’s just the way I choose to see it and allow myself to admire it, that makes it so special and fantastic, factors that you can also implement in yours.

Surely you’ve heard the famous “and they lived happily ever after” at the end of a movie or book, but I want to bring you a reflection here: do you want to wait for the end of your life to be considered happily ever after?! Or do you want to have to fulfill what others want for you, in order to be happy? Look, I don’t want a narrator to look at my life and say “now she can be happy”, I want to wake up every day and choose to be happy!!

A happiness it should not be romanticized, it should be real, lived, implemented in our days and routines! Happiness is subjective, we cannot predict that with the same event, all people will be happy. What may be a dream for some, may be a nightmare for others.

Stop and think: if you were to create a movie or write a book about your life today, what would you want to put there to tell the story?! We have to think that no story that is told to us is 100% reliable, after all, many things are left out, because I suppose that nobody is interested in reading a book about the monotonies of adult life, watching a movie only about relationship discussions or telling for the son at night a story of a person who hates his profession but who continues because he has bills to pay, right?!

And there’s nothing wrong with leaving some parts to the sidelines, as long as you can remind yourself that there are lots of parts of life that no one shows. In addition to these more normal parts that end up being left out, I want to draw your attention to another point: who has ever wished happiness on someone they saw in the movie and thought “I’ll only be happy when…” Yeah! These stories can create some somewhat unrealistic expectations for our daily lives.

Today, I invite you to look at the good side of your own life, to realize what flourishes and charms you experience daily and sometimes you don’t even realize it. It could be the delicious lunch you eat every day, the treat your partner gives you when you leave your toothbrush ready in the morning, the kiss on the forehead you give your child before bed, the pleasant feeling of lying in bed after a full day, your family relationship, which the way it is, however crazy it may be, is yours alone!

When we come to appreciate the beauty of our own story, it can become even more amazing than the best movie ever seen, because it is your story! You are the main character and the people you love are the protagonists and supporting characters!!! How can it be better than that?!

How about reflecting and admiring your own fairy tale?! Let’s go on this beautiful journey together!

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Hi, my name is Priscila Conte Vieira, but you can call me Pri! I am a psychologist, speaker and mentor. I work in clinical psychology, I’m a specialist in Positive Psychology, postgraduate student in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, master in self-knowledge, life coach, NLP practitioner and also creator of the Podcast Breathe, don’t freak out (how about checking it out on Spotify?!)

I’ll be here every week, addressing themes of Positive Psychology, happiness, well-being and helping them to be their best versions, through self-knowledge and flourishing. To find out more about me and follow me on a daily basis, just follow me on Instagram! I’m there like @psi.priscilaconte See you next Saturday! See you <3