Psychologists explain 10 things husbands want their wives to do (but few admit)

It’s no secret that men generally have a more practical profile than women. The issue, however, is that this does not make them good at explaining to their partners what they want. This difficulty in expressing emotions can prevent them from being clear about how they would like to deal with wives and girlfriends. In this sense, some studies list the most important attitudes for men and women to have happy, lasting and healthy relationships.

O awesome.club brings, in this post, some simple and effective tips related to Psychology and life together so that you, the reader, can better understand your partner’s language, thus avoiding noise in communication.

Just as we like to receive a compliment, men also like to be admired in their own way. They are always doing something to earn your admiration. Even if something doesn’t work out the first time, try to use words of encouragement to try to improve. Criticism, in addition to stressing, discourages them from trying to improve.

There is a saying that goes, “Praise in public, scold in private”. In life as a couple, we often have different ideas and that’s normal. It is unlikely that he will tell you, at first, that he hated being made fun of by his friends or that he hated the fact that you disallowed him in front of his children. It is recommended that you make important decisions together, before exposing the other.

We all know that women suffer from the difficulty of playing the roles imposed by modernity: they have to be a wife, a professional, a mother and an infinity of other things, without fail. We won’t always be with well-done hair, impeccable nails and dressed in a sensual way, as in the dating season. But remember to take care of yourself; this does a huge amount of good for his self-esteem and he will be happy to see you so exuberant.

Another thing they want and few talk about is that they like to have, in their wife, that person you can count on in any situation. Demonstrate that you live life together as if it were a team, in fact. Look for unity in solving problems, in financial decisions, in difficulties and in achievements. Together, the bonds of companionship help the couple face good times and bad.

Worse than failing is having a spouse who doesn’t support you in what you decide to do and who is always saying it will go wrong. Remember that marriage is a team and what is bad for one will eventually be reflected in the whole family. Decide together. Support your teammate’s decision and, if it’s wrong, help him understand that this is normal, that they can get it right next time and that you trust this team’s decisions.

We know that it is often almost impossible not to complain. But you have to agree that living with a complaining person 24 hours a day is quite complicated. Certainly routine and responsibilities can make us a little more serious. But try to take life more lightly and laugh at things and situations; smiling is a holy medicine and improves the day.

Irresistible as it may seem, believe me: screaming does not resolve conflicts. Psychologically speaking, women raise their voices as a defense towards each other. Try to calm down and leave that more critical conversation for when you are calmer. Sometimes, when angry, we say hurtful things that we cannot erase. Resolving conflicts after cooling off is always wiser.

After the passion ends — and this is totally normal — time can show us that the love of our lives has flaws. We are imperfect human beings and flexibility in relationships is very important so that the flame of love is always lit. Don’t confuse being flexible with living in an abusive relationship. But always keep in mind that your partner is not perfect all the time.

In a relationship, we must have the discernment that we are two people who love each other and, at the same time, we have particularities. Experts say that men have the “little box of nothingness”, a moment of their own when they just want to relax and rest, “alienating” themselves from everything. To do this, they play football, run, fish, watch sports matches or build things. At these times, you just need to relax too.

It’s important for a man to know that despite the stressful job, the challenge of being a father and husband, and managing finances (a mission that falls to both of you), you love him. It’s good to have a place with people who welcome you, after a day where nothing went right. They—and so do we—need to keep in mind that we are their safe haven.

The smooth running of relationships does not depend on just one spouse. But it is important to always read between the lines. Helping each other, being a partner, making an effort and having empathy is a step towards your companionship working towards an increasingly stronger and happier life together. Love, like and take life lighter. In the end, that’s what matters.

Did you like the tips? Is there anything else that also helps in life for two? Tell us in the comments section.