Disciplining a child is not punishing him, it is improving his behavior. Only then can they become socially and psychologically stable adults. But the same tactics for teaching discipline to a 2-year-old don’t work with a 10-year-old. Many parents may be tempted to resort to time-outs as a solution for all ages, but there are other simpler and more effective strategies recommended by pediatricians to better educate children.
O awesome.club summarized a set of steps for you to be able to educate your children in the best way, according to age.
1 to 2 years
Children between the ages of one and two are in what is known as the early childhood stage. They like to explore the world, so let them be free to do so. Just be careful not to leave the child alone. It is important to supervise her to ensure that she does not injure herself or her peers.
Long punishments, because small children are very sensitive and afraid of abandonment.
Scream, as they must not experience the feeling of being unloved.
Prohibitions and long explanations. Children’s language is still developing and they are not old enough to interpret and respond.
Take the child away from the person causing the harm, whether an activity or an object, and say a clear “NO”. You can even give a simple explanation, such as: “DO NOT touch it, it is hot”.
Redirect the child’s attention to another object or situation.
Stay close to the child to make sure they feel loved and protected and to prevent any further harm.
2 to 3 years old
Children between 2 and 3 years old are in constant effort to gain autonomy and self-assertion, while learning that there are limitations. This leads to frustration and the dreaded tantrums.
Prohibit activities and situations.
Ignoring the child, saying that he will recover on his own. This will not happen.
Don’t lose control. Tantrums are not just anger and a way to defy the adult. Try to empathize with the child and avoid showing frustration.
Get the child out of the situation.
Soothe her by hugging her so she can compose herself. Ask why she is behaving like this. Perhaps she is scared, stressed or tired.
Explain the situation calmly and clearly. Then you should comfort her by setting an example of good behavior.
3 to 5 years old
Children who attend preschool and kindergarten have already learned to recognize reality and its limitations, but they still need help to internalize certain rules and develop reliable and solid judgment.
Excessively long speeches. They will have no effect on the child’s behavior and may be counterproductive.
Threaten the child if there are no consequences. It just goes to teach that the rules don’t really mean anything.
Establish rules and apply them consistently. The child can already understand and follow them.
Give the child some guidance to show him the appropriate behavior.
Putting the child in time-out if he is out of control. The time, in minutes, must be equal to the age of the child, with a maximum of 5 minutes.
Educate her by showing the logical consequences of her misconduct.
Prevent unwanted behavior by praising good behavior. This encourages children in this age group because they like to get other people’s approval.
6 to 12 years
From the age of 6, children have more and more autonomy, a behavior that they may want to assert in front of their parents, with fights. They are already able to choose their friends and interests, but parents are still in control of the important decisions. After all, children between the ages of 6 and 12 don’t always analyze their decisions as deeply as adults do.
Humiliating and shaming the child for his or her unacceptable behavior in front of others. She needs a role model of good behavior.
Discuss the incident with the child as you try to discipline him. Otherwise, your authority will be voided.
A reasonable, nonjudgmental conversation.
Understand age-appropriate behavior. If a 6-year-old girl is swinging her legs while sitting, remember: she is only 6 years old.
Establish and abide by house rules, always! This will confirm and reassert your authority.
Withdraw or delay giving rewards such as toys and desserts. Remember, you must act realistically.
Let the child suffer the consequences of his bad behavior.
13 to 18 years old
Teenagers are known to challenge parental values and rules. They are trying to find their own identity, reaffirm their individuality, to distance themselves a little bit from their parents, and because of this, they tend to act impulsively. Then begins a difficult phase, full of conflicts.
Belittling the teenager, especially in front of strangers and peers.
Speeches. Be transparent, precise and direct with the message you want to convey.
The “I said” in your vocabulary.
Set age-appropriate rules in a nonjudgmental way. It is crucial that you as a young person comply with them.
Let suffer the natural consequences of your misconduct. Maintain a non-confrontational attitude. If you broke a window playing football, you must pay, using your allowance.
Negotiate on lighter matters with a teenager. This gives you a sense of independence, making you feel part of the decision.
Be approachable. Many teens seek and desire parental guidance and approval to guide their behavior.
Do you know any other tactics that should be on this list? In your opinion, what is the hardest age to discipline? Leave your comment!
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