Overcome the limitations you impose on yourself

On many occasions we put ourselves unnecessary limitations on ourselves, limitations that prevent us from following our dreams. These limitations are based on the fear of failure, on the fear of what people will say, on the fear of losing our state of comfort or on beliefs that have permeated us through the pressure and fear that others have instilled in us.

This is self-sabotage, an attack on our creativity, our freedom and our rights.

4 ways to stop sabotaging yourself

Next we are going to see the most common elements that make people limit themselves and self-sabotage:

#1 – Control that part of you that hates itself

A part of us thinks positively and looks for the best. However, we also have an anti-self, an internal enemy that resides in our mind and that is in charge of reminding us of all those things that scare us, all those recommendations and advice with which they frightened us (and may continue to frighten us today). and that we heard around us.

It is necessary to challenge that self-destructive voice that attacks us with negative thoughts and that questions the abilities and goals that we set for ourselves to live the life we ​​want to live.

#2 – Get out of your comfort zone

What stops us from moving forward, what prevents us from going out to pursue a dream, is not only the fear of failure, but the fear of losing the current comfortable status which, much or little, is a sure thing. There will always be someone who will tell you to “play it safe”, that “what you aspire to is difficult to achieve”, that “why do you want to do that when the other thing is so easy”, that “success in that what you are looking for is reserved for a few”, that “where are you going, if you are a nobody”. Surely those voices also come from within you.

Dare to challenge “the rules”, rules imposed by fear. Those who say it are only expressing their own fears. If you don’t fight for you, no one will. If you don’t trust yourself, no one will trust you. And if you fall, you get up and look forward.

#3 – Overcome the rigidity of your self-defense

Failure to act is the consequence of the rigidity of the defenses we have created around ourselves. These defenses are adaptations that we made during our childhood or adolescence to cope with what was coming at us and that during adult life manifest themselves in the form of limiting attitudes.

It is necessary to be flexible with those shells, with those disguises of “I am what I have to be” and begin to bring out our true self so that it can walk towards its own dreams. That shell extinguishes creativity and nullifies the right to choose.

#4 – Face your fears

We are afraid: fear of failure, fear of what people will say, fear of ridicule, fear of disappointing others… But, above all, we are afraid to face ourselves.

Identify your fears and face them. Are you more afraid of failing than the frustration of never having tried? Are you more afraid of ridicule than the satisfaction of having fought for your dreams? Are you more afraid of letting others down than letting yourself down?

“Many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality,” Jim Carrey during his commencement speech at Maharishi University of Management in Iowa in May 2014.

This phrase has touched me so deeply that I can’t help but leave you the video of the full speech. In it you will find much more inspiration to overcome the limitations you impose on yourself.