My mother-in-law wanted me to treat her like I treat my wife

According to a recent study, men and women experience more conflicts with their mothers-in-law than with their own mothers. At first glance, this idea doesn’t seem like a big surprise, but what the study wants to show is that people don’t need to feel guilty when they go through situations like this. Recently, a reader of Incredible he experienced something along these lines with his mother-in-law, a woman with whom he had a great relationship and who, over the years, became more demanding and even authoritarian.

O awesome.club received a message from Patrick explaining what happened and thought of some advice to help him. Check out what he told us and tell us what you would do if you were in the same situation.

Hi Patrick! Thanks for your message. we, from awesome.clubwe’ve thought a lot about everything you’ve written and we have some advice.

Remember that the key to most conflicts is in the Communication, especially after an argument. It’s important for your mother-in-law to understand that just because she doesn’t get the same gifts as your wife, it doesn’t mean you don’t respect her or don’t like her. Help her understand that the relationship you have with her is not the same as the relationship you have with your wife. Try to establish healthy boundaries with your mother-in-law, this is very important to maintain a good relationship. Explain that her demanding attitude is not something that makes you happy and that she needs to respect the boundaries of your relationship. From your letter, we understand that you were upset that your mother-in-law was not happy with the gift you gave her. . can you explain that the frame you made had a special meaning, and that you thought she would like it. Of course, you can’t force her to like the gift or the frame, but that way you can help her understand the value the gift has to you.

Dealing with overbearing relatives can be very difficult, but you can think of some steps to better handle the situation:

talk to your wife🇧🇷 Explain that you didn’t want to hurt her mother’s feelings, you just wanted to explain why you gave her a different gift than what she asked for.Keep Calm🇧🇷 In these cases, it is very important not to lose control and always be respectful. Her answer may have been too direct and that’s why Samantha was upset.Try to spend more time with your mother-in-law🇧🇷 This advice may seem strange at first, but maybe Samantha’s authoritarianism is just in the fact that she wants to spend more time with you. Try to schedule regular meetings with your in-laws, this way it will be easier for Samantha to understand that it is possible to have a good relationship with you, as long as the boundaries are respected.

We are very pleased with your message and hope that our advice can help you to better deal with this and other situations.

Have you ever experienced a conflict with your mother-in-law or any other family member? And what would you do in Patrick’s place? If you have other advice, be sure to share it in the comments.