Mirror syndrome: laugh at yourself

Do you have the ability to look in the mirror and accept yourself as you are? Answer with complete sincerity. It would be very difficult for you, right? There are very few people who, when faced with their reflection, can say that they are 100% perfect.

It is not about narcissism, but about knowing how to love yourself, respect yourself and why not, laugh at yourself. We are very hard on our own image, more than we would be on anyone else. We don’t have the luxury or the permission to say, “I am who I am, I accept myself, I enjoy my body”.

It would be good if we started reconcile ourselves with our own image, with what the mirror returns to us. In this way, we will avoid that erroneous, pejorative, incisive perception that only judges and never understands.

The mirror syndrome as some psychologists call it, It encompasses various behaviors of men and women starting in adolescence, and all of them are related to the perception of one’s own image.

The reflective surface plays a fundamental role in our lives, It is the mediator between a somewhat “sick” relationship, not at all balanced, so to speak. On one side, there are us, defiant, inquisitive. On the other hand, an image that does not feel up to the task, always crestfallen, shy, without self-esteem.

Why do we mistreat ourselves in this way? Why are we never happy with what we have (both physical and material)?

Young people are more vulnerable to suffering from this mirror syndrome, first because they are in a stage of many hormonal, physical and mental changes. On the other hand, because they compare themselves all the time with others (high school colleagues, family members, movie stars, etc.). Third, because at that moment is when love is lived in a different way, friendships are forever and the fact of not having the perfect body can destroy all that wonderful present that is only in magazines, movies or series.

In order to avoid this problem and be able to continue into adulthood appropriately, It is necessary to know how to laugh at oneself, to judge oneself with moderation and intelligence.

Nor can we fall into the opposite path of not paying attention to our body, “letting ourselves be”, not taking care of ourselves, not dieting or eating healthy, not playing sports, stopping shaving or brushing our hair. Opposites are never good.

So is it possible to find the balance between being hard on our bodies and not caring at all? Of course!

We don’t need anyone else to feel happy, young, beautiful and with the joy of living. Let’s not let the relationship with ourselves remain in the background.

So the next time you look in the mirror, don’t focus on what you don’t like (wrinkles, legs, belly, thighs, stretch marks, cellulite, whiteness, acne), but in what pleases you (eyes, mouth, shoulders, navel, feet).

For every look at a “controversial” point, divert your eyes to something that catches your attention for the better, That is, it has the ability to put a smile on your face.

“ I have stretch marks but… they are because I have had two beautiful children”… “My skin looks much better since I started this treatment”, “I have never thought about how beautiful my nose is”. Again, it is not about being Narcissus and going through life saying “how much I love myself”, but if start to feel good about yourself, with what you have and what you see in the mirror.

Throughout life we ​​introduce images into the brain that distance us from reality. We think that we would be prettier if we had the legs of a certain actress or the abs of an athlete and we put together a kind of puzzle between what we see in the mirror and what we would like to see.

Destructive comparison is very common due to the establishment of certain beauty standards, according to the media and society. Remember that these perceptions have changed over time and that they are not all the same even today (in certain countries, very thin women are not considered pretty, for example).

Laugh at yourself… It means that you know how to accept yourself, you like yourself, you love yourself and you understand that you are perfect, no matter how that jean or that skirt looks on you, and without looking at defects as a curse, but as something to be proud of and if possible, improve.