Mature love: is it never too late for true love?

Sometimes first love doesn’t always come in the right order. There are relationships that happen in middle age, allowing us to discover magical and unexpected people in whose embraces we like to take refuge, because they smell like home and their kisses taste like sugar and fire at the same time. Because mature love knows no age, it is dignified and vital and energizing.

A common fact in many of these cases in which such significant relationships are consolidated in middle age is that Some of the members had the clear certainty that in their case, the doors of love had been closed forever. Sometimes, we store sentimental failures so devastating that we have the feeling that our heart, already turned into stone, has fallen into the deepest part of a well.

We must also point out something important. Not all people, just by reaching 50 or 60 years of age, are capable of building a mature, conscious and happy love. There are many bitter hearts that have not purged their sorrowswho have not been able to make that inner journey where they can forgive, where they can turn past experiences into renewed paths to travel with enthusiasm.

Because personal maturity is not brought by years nor by damage. But the attitude and that wisdom of emotions where not everyone has acquired their doctorate, their master’s degree. We invite you to reflect on it.

Mature love, building perfect presents

When one reaches that age in which the decades have traced in us more stories than we could tell, We sometimes see ourselves as those ripe fruits slightly bruised on the edges.. Now, we must never forget that ripe fruits have a much sweeter and more pleasant flavor than those others that are too green, too tight and slightly bitter.

Our experiences are not a burden. On the contrary, no one should be the result of their disappointments, their failures or even less of the wounds that others inflicted on them. We are our attitude towards everything experienced, never a mere result. Thus, mature love adds a dose of wisdom to the feeling to be able to build what really matters: happy presents, dignified and passionate presents where we can discover each other.

Neither member renounces their pasts, they simply accept each other., how we accept naked skin inhabited by some scars, some wrinkles left by time on those faces and on those perfectly imperfect bodies where, of course, decades or disappointments do not matter either. Only the pleasure of the here and now.

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Wise artisans of love

Francesco Alberoni is a well-known sociologist specializing in emotional relationships who has given us such interesting books as “Falling and Love.” According to him, The human being has not yet understood what the mechanisms of authentic and lasting love are.. Many of us get carried away by that chemical shipwreck that is falling in love, passion, the need for each other, but few come to understand that above all, loving is knowing how to build.

Love in mature age already knows very well what it is to be in love, Therefore, what they crave at this stage of life is something much deeper as well as delicate. They desire intimacy, the complicity of two glances that understand each other without words, to enjoy common spaces but at the same time respecting the individuality of each one. They long for a strong and noble bond in which to work and invest every day for that implicit but present pact: love.

Erich Fromm said that loving is an art. It is not just a pleasant relationship, one that undoubtedly brings us falling in love itself, where we hardly need to do anything, just feel, just let ourselves go, breathe, dream and let ourselves fall into the deep recesses of desire.

Loving is an art because it requires effort, it is like giving shape to a sculpture or a canvas where each brushstroke is essential. to give perspective, body and beauty to that work. Mature love, that which happens when we have left youth, is very capable of tracing each movement with subtle perfection because it is a good craftsman of emotions. Because he no longer needs to prove anything and he knows very well what he wants.

Because authentic people build authentic, full and satisfying loves. It doesn’t matter then that first love did not come in the correct order. Life, after all, always has a wonderfully chaotic touch, where We have no choice but to let ourselves go as we move forward with enthusiasm and with our hearts always on fire, always young.

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