20 Incredible readers tell why they decided to sleep apart from their companions

When we talk about marriage, we automatically think about life for two, being together on the living room sofa, sharing your favorite food and obviously ending the day together, lying in bed and sharing a spoon. However, not all couples agree with this, some prefer to spend the whole day with their partner, but end the night alone, sleeping in the most comfortable way they prefer, in their own company.

Therefore, we, from awesome.clubwe have gathered 20 stories of couples who chose to sleep apart and are no less happy for it, quite the contrary, the marriage is still full.

My husband sleeps quickly and snores a lot. I take hours to fall asleep. I suffered for a year or two and always ended up sleeping on the couch in the living room. Sleeping was a nightmare. Until, little by little, I decided to have a room of my own. We get along much better without the imposition of having to sleep in the same room just because we’re married. Since taking this habit and speaking openly, I have found that countless couples do the same without coming out in public. If one day you have to start a life together again, the first question will be that the other accepts separate rooms. Marcia Cunha/Facebook

My husband snores and moves around a lot at night. I couldn’t sleep, it was horrible! It was affecting my physical and mental health. We moved to a bigger apartment and each one has their own room. The best possible decision! Now yes, full harmony! Alessandra Coqueiro/Facebook

I confess that I found it strange when couples told me that they slept apart and were happy that way, but I quickly understood when I got married that it’s healthier for both of them, when one of them has an overwhelming snoring! I even tried because my husband didn’t like me not sleeping with him. However, I also didn’t like to spend whole nights without sleep, because sleeping well is life! And not resting was taking a toll on my physical and mental health. I started to live better when I started sleeping again between six/seven hours a night. And that hasn’t changed the love I feel for my husband one bit. Adriane Marques/Facebook

It’s been 36 years of marriage and 16 sleeping apart. My marriage improved 100% when we decided to separate rooms. When you say you sleep separately, you mean sleep. My husband snores a lot and loudly. I couldn’t sleep, woke up tired and stressed. Then, we decided to separate the rooms and it was the biggest proof of love he gave me, he thought about my well-being. Marcia Santana/Facebook

There are things that never made sense to me, like sleeping crammed into the same bed. Even more of “conch”. In fact, I hate the slightest touch when I’m sleeping. Lindomar Silva / Facebook

I got married and my husband worked in the morning and I worked during the day. So we never slept together as he was working when I was at home sleeping. Today, the schedule has changed a little, but I still leave at 6 am to work and he goes to bed at 3 am. That’s why we chose different rooms so no one bothers the other. It is so harmonious that we are super happy. Carlene Monteiro/Facebook

I have been sleeping separately from my husband for a year, after 37 years of marriage. He likes to watch movies, with a thick blanket. I’m hot and I sleep late as I get home late from work and wake up later too. I snore, he snores. It was the best thing! Why didn’t I do this before? Silvanei Moulin/Facebook

I work at night and my wife during the day. When I lie down to sleep, she gets up to work. When I’m off, she can’t sleep, because she’s gotten used to sleeping alone. We don’t sleep in separate rooms or separate beds, but it’s fine to sleep alone, that is. Jair Leandro/Facebook

We sleep in separate rooms and we love it. When we travel, we look to rent a house that has two bedrooms or at least two beds. Sometimes when we stay in a hotel it gets more complicated and we have to be forced to sleep together. We can hardly sleep well under these circumstances. Lili Vga/Facebook

I’ve been married for 29 years. We’ve slept in separate rooms for 28 years, but we’ve stayed up together. A peace, because he snores a lot and my sleep is very light! I woke up in a bad mood and very angry with him. Fabiana Rossetto/Facebook

Sleeping alone was the best thing I’ve done in my life. I like privacy, sleep at dawn, fan, closed door. My husband, on the other hand, did the opposite. He doesn’t like a fan, because he gets cold, and he snores a lot. I’m out of love like this. If there is still love? I believe so, as they have been together for more than 25 years. Luz Ferraz/Facebook

My husband and I decided to sleep in separate rooms and oddly enough, I think it was the best thing we did together. Now we feel better, everyone has their space and we understand each other very well. Love, affection and complicity between us will always exist. Mari Souza/Facebook

I don’t think sleeping together is synonymous with love. My husband, for example, snores a lot, and there are days when I can’t sleep. I get restless, get up with a headache and stressed, because I didn’t have a peaceful night. So a lot of times when he’s home off duty (because he works nights) I run to the mattress in the living room and it’s fine, I sleep which is a beauty, and he also complains that I move around a lot. Cissa Silva/Facebook

After 40 years of marriage, we decided to sleep in separate rooms. It was great! He snores, likes air conditioning, likes war movies. Who sleeps like this? We don’t lose intimacy. Improved the relationship. Salete Oliveira/Facebook

I’ve been married for 12 years and we’ve been sleeping in separate beds for three years. It was the best decision we ever made, because sleeping with someone who snores is terrible. I sleep in one room with the children (one for six months and the other for four years) and my husband sleeps in another. He snores a lot and we chose to do it that way, because that way he doesn’t bother me with his snoring and he’s also at peace knowing that everything is ok. And even not sleeping in the same bed, our relationship is one of love, affection, companionship and respect. We are always together. We only parted ways at bedtime. Sleeping together is not an obligation for being a couple, even more so if it is uncomfortable for someone. Kelly Assis/Facebook

We’ve also slept in separate rooms for two years. I love late nights and my husband goes to bed early to watch TV and fall asleep in front of it. I also love a huge bed just for me, privacy is everything. Mirim Schlegel/Facebook

My parents have been married for 35 years and live in separate houses. They live on the same street, but each in their own home with their own style and decoration. Are we disunited? NO! They have a great relationship and it works. Rayza Vitória/Facebook

I don’t see any harm in sleeping apart. I know couples who sleep apart, as one is a heavy sleeper and snores a lot, while the other is a light sleeper. I’ve been married for 21 years and I think it’s nice for everyone to have their own room. Let’s stop fooling around! There are many couples who show one thing to society, but at home it is totally different. So, everyone has the right to live as they want. Adriana N Cavalheiro / Facebook

My husband slept on a mattress, while I slept with my son. They made a joke about it, saying I didn’t need birth control and a month later I got pregnant. These days he works nights, we sleep separate shifts but in the same bed. We sleep together on weekends, but there’s always a fight: he likes a fan and I like a lot of blankets. I have sensory sensitivity with fans. In the end, he just fights. I think it’s fair to sleep apart. Francieli Andreolli / Facebook

My husband and I have slept in separate rooms since our first year of marriage. We learned early on in our days (and nights) together that we weren’t meant to rest and sleep in the same bed. For many years I worked at night and had to wake up in the middle of the night to go to work. It bothered him a lot and he had trouble getting back to sleep. By the way, I love sleeping with heavy blankets and warm pajamas (even in summer) and he’s that warm type who only sleeps naked. We separated the beds and “pliiiin!”, the magic happened. Our intimacy remains excellent and the fact that we sleep in one room does not disturb us at all. Only everyone has their own time and personal space at bedtime. And there goes 13 years of marriage.

And you, is it a shell team or a separate bed? What do you think of couples who sleep in different beds? Do you think you could? Tell us in the comments!