Main types of toxic relationships

Toxic relationships are great “vampires” for our energies. However, many times it is not easy for us to identify this type of relationship, either due to a lack of skill, because the damage is very gradual and very well disguised, or because the relationship that harms us so much also gives us other things that we are not familiar with. willing to give up.

Toxic relationships trap usas if it were a swamp with quicksand and the more we want to free ourselves, the more difficult it becomes for us to free ourselves from its clutches.

Not much is taught about this type of relationship and this may be the main reason for our problem of letting go of what hurts us. AND If we really receive teaching about it, it is when we have already been hurt. But as we always say, mistakes are the best teachers of our lives.

Escape toxic relationships

No matter how much we consult, we will not find anyone who has been able to get rid of someone toxic overnight, as if it were a bit of dirt that has remained on our shoes. Toxic relationships trap us in a negative web, the same as an insect in a spider’s web. We are not only talking about couples, but there are also toxic people in other areas: family, friends, colleagues, etc.

As a first measure, A toxic relationship does us harm, prevents us from moving forward, It manipulates everything that comforts us in our existence, it destroys what we are, it does not give us “permission” to think or act as we want… in short, it makes us unhappy beings. And as we said before, it is difficult to succeed when trying to disengage ourselves from that network that suffocates, represses, hurts…

There are many communication problems to which are added lies, emotional blackmail and, above all, manipulation. While both parties may suffer, the one who bears the brunt is the one who follows orders.

Toxic relationships that we should avoid

One of the most common toxic relationships are those where a single person is in charge or decides.control

Secondly, So are the relationships that fulfill the function of “filling” or “completing” an existing void. We must be able to feel fulfilled by ourselves, without someone else being in charge of making up for the shortcomings.

The third type to avoid is codependent relationships. They are those in which both members are passive and depend on the other to be happy, they do not know what individuality is and they need external approval to act, they always prioritize the needs of others over their own.

Other types of toxic relationships

Idealization or unrealistic expectations are also a type of toxic relationship. These occur when we demand perfection that is impossible to achieve, when we constantly expect to change others until they adapt to our tastes, etc.

Also Toxic relationships are those of those people who use past problems to justify what they do in the present. They may be very authoritarian parents, a jealous partner, or someone who was abandoned in childhood. Anything goes as an excuse for daily actions.

Another type of toxic relationship is one based on continuous lies., where you never know what is true and what is a fallacy. We can also include here hiding information or anything that destroys trust (which is very difficult to recover). With her, we can point out relationships where forgiveness is not a genuine feeling and there is also no intention to repair what has been damaged.

Finally, there are relationships that are based on aggression-passivity during communication. When instead of speaking openly it is done with hints or prejudices, when the words or attitude is always hostile and when there is no attention when trying to establish a dialogue.

Maybe with these explanations we can be more alert and determine when a relationship has become toxic.

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