Life is too short to live out someone else’s plans.

When we begin to live by and for another person, we lose our essence over time. Learning to live what we really want is the best way to exist fully. We reflect on it right here.

They say that life is short, that it passes in a breath and when we realize it, we are already living more from memories than from what is happening around us.

And the truth is that more than fearing the transience of our existence, what is truly scary are not the mistakes, nor the falls, nor even less the times we have gotten lost along the way. What is terrifying is a life not livedor even more so, having let our days go by adjusted to the plans and dreams of second people.

I am not in this world to meet anyone’s expectations, nor are you to meet mine. We are two beings who have collided in a wonderful encounter and who together build a common path weaving life, harmonizing dreams, plans and objectives.

Sometimes, It takes us a long time to realize that the life we live does not make us happy. At first we let ourselves be carried away, perhaps by love, perhaps by hopes and illusions that little by little unfold in the form of falsehood. In something that was once promised to us and that was never fulfilled.

There are many ways in which life rusts alongside other people. Sometimes they are family members, other times they are couples… Whatever the case, it is something that we should not allow.

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Because few things are as personal and distinctive as the way we truly want to live life.. And no one should put molds, anchors or puppet strings on it to lead us along its own paths.

If you live the lives of others, you stop being you

You are your values, your dreams of yesterday and your desires of the present. You are your choices, your morning hopes and your afternoon sadness. You are what you have achieved and what you have left to achieve… How then can you allow others to blur your identity to wear your shoes without your permission?

You can lose your pride for love, you can put aside your dreams to dream someone else’s if you wish, but what you should never, what you should never allow yourself is to lose your dignity for anyone.

It is necessary to travel this path called life in the simplest way possible: in freedom, without burdens on the heart, and without noise in the mind.

You don’t have to be afraid of life, you have to enjoy it with joy and fullness. And if right now you don’t feel any of the latter, if when you open your eyes in the morning you see yourself overwhelmed by an endless number of negative emotions, maybe you are not living the life you want. Maybe you are in the scenario that others have created for you.

When your daily life is dictated by someone else’s personal universe

There are those who assume, without knowing very well why, the role of ruler in a relationship. The other person can only revolve around him like a satellite around a planet.

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And this is done at the beginning out of love, because we set our hopes and because for a time, we are unable to see the details that build a non-functional reality.

There are those who need to have control like those who fear that at the slightest moment, their house of cards will collapse.The obsessive need for control actually hides low self-esteem which transforms into authoritarianism and inflexibility. Respecting the will of the other and their personal spaces means running the risk of losing that person. Being the one who dictates the decisions, the one who chooses, the one who assumes, accepts or rejects on a daily basis offers reinforcements to a low self-esteem that is incapable of showing. reciprocity towards others.

A full, authentic and happy life does not look for prisoners: no one belongs to anyone.

It is not about maintaining a detached life without ties, without relationships and without anyone significant by our side. It is about being aware that we should not consider anything our property.. No person belongs to anyone.

No one should be the owner of happiness, because happiness is not possessed, it is created like the breeze on summer afternoons or the coral in the sea oceans. Happiness is a treasure that you should not leave to the selfish whim of others.

Since I do not belong to you and you do not belong to me, I choose you in freedom to walk hand in hand with you. So that we both are architects and creators of our own happiness.

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Since I am aware that we are all born free and have the full right to choose our way of life, I respect your choices, your values and your way of thinking. And therefore, I strive every day to harmonize my personal spaces with the common space that we both share.

I free myself from that life that others had created for me

There are times when family contexts, with possessive mothers or fathers, also configure these contexts where we end up living other people’s lives that others create for us. Emotional and couple relationships are, on the other hand, those common territories where this type of dependence and vital coercion occurs most.

To live a happy and full life we should not “tie ourselves” to one or more people.. It is better to anchor ourselves to one goal: happiness. Because it is this objective that will make us discriminate who deserves us and who does not. And those who make you suffer don’t deserve you.

Life is not dreamed of or waited in front of a window while others dictate to us what to do and what not to do. Life is risk and courage, life happens beyond the comfort zone and the chains that others impose on us.