Life is constant change

Accepting that life is change allows us to live in the here and now more calmly, enjoying what we have in our hands, without worrying about whether we will lose it or not.

Life is a wonderful journey, but it is not static, we are constantly changing. Everything has a beginning and an end and the things that were there yesterday may disappear from our present tomorrow.. Accepting that life is change allows us to live in the here and now more calmly, enjoying what we have in our hands, without worrying about whether we will lose it or not.

It is very important learn to close stages, chapters or stories of our life because that is precisely what living is: change, renew and not stay in the happy – and already famous – comfort zone longer than necessary.

When you stay stuck in a life that is not contributing anything for fear of change, in reality you are already ceasing to live fully.

The fear of uncertainty

Change generates uncertainty and that uncertainty makes us afraid. Human beings have a great desire for control, but as rational beings that we are, we must learn that security does not exist, except in the case of death. No matter how much we try to control our world, there will be certain situations or circumstances that will happen without us expecting it and without us having any power to modify them.

Therefore, stop trying to control, you can’t and it will create a lot of discomfort. Internalize the idea, real and true, that things can end and that will be fine because it is normal, it is part of life. Because life is change.

Do not want to stay where you no longer need to be for fear of uncertainty. Maybe today you will suffer for having closed a chapter, but tomorrow you will be happy and open another one again and it will most likely be much better. It will be better because you will do better, you will have learned from the previous stages, you will have drawn conclusions and you will have matured as a person.

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Take memories for what they are and try not to mix them with overly exaggerated feelings.. What is gone will not return and it is not worth thinking about. Now you have before you a new stage, to discover, to explore, to know yourself better and above all to appreciate and enjoy.

Every stage contains a pleasure, something positive, something new, nothing is ever totally bad, even if you don’t have the capacity to realize it right now.

If you reflect coldly, away from emotions, you will see that nothing is totally good or totally bad. If your relationship is over and you have to close that stage, you may think that perhaps now you can do things that you couldn’t do before with that person, or that you have learned what you don’t want in your life.

It is true that you will also lose the good things you had with that person, but as we have mentioned before, other good things will come to your life, new doors will open, you will discover new paths.

Everything changes, everything passes, everything is reinvented. We ourselves too, evolve as people, we do not remain static. The person we were yesterday is not the same as today. We grow, mature, age and die; That is the natural order of things and we do not have to go against the current or try to modify it, but rather accept it with serenity.

How to get rid of fear?

Life is change and when we reject this, fear can stalk us. How can we get rid of this fear? To begin with, we have to accept that life is change so we can continue with the following tips.

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Stop asking yourself why things happen

Why did he have to die? Why did he leave me for someone else? Why did he break up? Why did they fire me? I ask you: Why do you ask yourself that? Do you think your problem will be solved? What difference does it make!

The past is past, let it go, Don’t create another problem or unnecessary frustration for yourself by finding out why. You may never know the why of anything and if you do, it won’t be of any use to you either.

Check your internal dialogue

Don’t tell yourself things like “it’s not fair that this ends”, “my life has no meaning after my breakup”, etc. They are false, exaggerated and impractical ideas. You will adapt to change sooner or later, but you will do so much sooner if you learn to manage your ideas and thoughts well.

To do this, you have to change them for more realistic – not positive – phrases until you begin to believe them and automate them: “It may be unfair that this ends, but life is unfair by definition. I will be able to endure it”, “The meaning of my life does not depend on a specific person, because I have more things that I can enjoy.”

Get rid of things that don’t give you anything, without fear

Throw away the old, delete photos, tear up documents, give away clothes, change your house, partner or job… Don’t stay stuck where you don’t fit in for too long. Life is change and it has to flow.

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Start building from your present and project your future . What you think you need and that is essential for your life, in reality it is not. It is essential to eat, breathe, sleep, drink… the rest is just a routine, a habit and the human being is capable of getting used to it and getting out of it, getting used to it and getting out of it… you can do it, get to it, without fear!, no nothing terrible is going to happen!

Try to implement these three steps and you will gain wisdom, maturity, strength and mental health. Assume, embrace and accept the changes; make them part of you, of your life, of your world

Look forward, like when you’re driving and never look back. You only have to look at the rearview mirror for a moment, but we have to drive looking forward, observing and accepting what is coming and what is yet to come.