Learn to give the right importance to you

Sometimes, Life brings us unfair situations, problems, conflicts, difficult decisions…

And it is that Living means having to go through suffering, pain, injustice… This is something we have to learn to assume and accept.

We do not have control to change all situations of our lives that we dislike, nor to always find the perfect solution to problems; but we do have control to modify our interpretation of things and to give a certain importance to the events that happen to us.

It is true that there are certain problems that are objectively very hard, difficult to overcome, that can depress us and leave us in the most absolute sadness; others, however, are more trivial, but we magnify them with our catastrophic and dramatic thoughts.

But No matter how much the problem hurts us, life goes on.

Therefore, there is two options: continue tormenting yourself himself with thoughts and begin to die in life or begin to be reborn from the ashes like a phoenix, changing your mentality and learning to relativize.

By relativizing we mean the taking emotional distance from the person with respect to the problem, to look at things from another, more rational, prism, to give things the importance they really have but no more.

It will depend on how relevant what happens to us is for us. And this normally has a lot to do with our ego and our fears.

There are parents who become extremely stressed and angry at the world because their child is not able to pass a course or does not want to study. Behind this is the fear that our son, if he does not study, will not get a profitable job and then life will become very difficult for him.

Is this really rational? Are we exaggerating? Do all people who have not studied today have a difficult life or are they miserable? You have to think about it.

How to relativize things?

There are several tricks that can help you look at things with different eyes and perspective:

-May humor and laughter be your best friends. Surely you remember some situation that made you angry at the time and that later, once it was over, you couldn’t stop laughing because of how absurd it had been.

It is important to be a serious and responsible person, but also It is very important to laugh at yourself and the situations that happen to us.

When unpleasant situations happen to you but they are not going to go beyond a momentary annoyance, stop getting irritated and try to laugh, think that you are part of a joke or a Forges scene.

Humor also helps resolve conflicts, It makes us more creative in the search for solutions and keeps us away from anxiety.

-Exercise self-confidence. If you trust yourself and are sure of your worth and what you are capable of achieving, regardless of the things that happen to you, you will be more skilled at solving problems and making good decisions, without letting negative emotions or discomfort control you.

-Observe the immensity of the Universe. This exercise can help you a lot. Think about what the universe is infinite, and that we, with our problems, are only a small part, very small, of the total existence.

Sometimes we think we are the center of the universe when in reality, with or without problems, the world continues to spin and life continues its course.

-Do not waste your time. We know that one day our lives will come to an end. Everything that begins, ends and the more we waste time worrying about things and tormenting ourselves with the problems of daily life, the less we will allow ourselves to enjoy life.

There may come a day when you regret it and there is no turning back. Time is the most valuable thing we have, because it is irrecoverable. You decide what is most worth using it on.

-There are people worse than you. Unfortunately, in the world there are injustices and very hard problems, harder than we can imagine. There are natural disasters, poverty, hunger, murder, child prostitution…

Think about whether you are really giving your problem the importance it deserves or are you dramatizing too much.

Thinking about everything that happens in our world can help you to see that maybe what’s happening to you isn’t that big of a deal.

-Leave your fears aside and overcome them. Fear paralyzes us and many times our fears are irrational, ridiculous or absurd.

There are people who are afraid of making a mistake when making a decision. “What if I leave this job to study and then fail the exams?”

Ask yourself what is the most serious thing that could happen if the worst thing you expect were to happen? Could you stand it? Would you survive? How could you get ahead? Surely you have more resources than you imagine, you just have to be brave and face your fears and insecurities.