Learn to accept, learn to change

“There is nothing permanent except change” (Heraclitus)

Often, situations arise in life in which we do not know how to act and we move between accepting what happens to us or, on the contrary, avoiding it or even denying it. But what benefits us the most?

The answer would be accept what is presented to us. Any situation in which life or relationships surprise us, we have to learn to accept it. If we resist or deny, those thoughts in our head will only become stronger, acquiring greater relevance.

Accepting is synonymous with facing and the opposite of avoiding.

Front facing a situation is Look for solutionsis learning to live with the situation in the best way possible, and be happy with it.

When we talk about accepting, we never consider avoiding to be a solution, since evasion distances us from reality, looking in another direction, without facing or resolving what corresponds to us. Furthermore, accepting is the first step so that there is a change later.

What is the difference between acceptance and resignation?

Accepting is finding the balance to be happy what we have to live with is to find the formula to solve, improve, adapt, respect and see the positive side of the situation. It is understanding things as they are.

However, resignation is living with that annoying situation, because we have no choice, bearing the suffering as best as possible, and enduring what we have had to live through.

The answer is always accept. Now, it is advisable not to confuse acceptance with resignation, as we explained before, since to resign ourselves would be to assume the situation from the passivity of sufferingand yet, accepting means being an active part of the situation that we acceptThat is to say, part of acceptance is often decision-making and this sometimes entails change.

Learning to accept is learning to change

As we have said, accepting is always the first step, to adapt in the best way to the situation that befell us.

With that, we will feel better about ourselves and the situationwe will learn to handle it well, for example, without suffering, without becoming overwhelmed, seeing ourselves as capable, with tools, positive skills and respect by the other people involved.

However, it is possible that, as a result of self-improvement and personal discovery, the time may come to consider one’s own life, one’s way of living, interpersonal relationships, relationships, work relationships, etc. And then it is time for change, from acceptance, with the satisfaction of having known how to carry it, the time comes to consider one’s personal life.

For example, when a relationship goes bad, due to the incompatibility of both members, the first step is acceptance of how the other person is, with this, reproaches, lack of respect and the attempt to make the other person disappear. person changes.

When We accept, we realize what reality is, and we respect differences more and better, facing them with peace of mind. And therefore, having reached this point of acceptance, the next learning arises, that of the decision to change.

When we accept the situation, we do not fight against the situation to change it, but rather we make decisions for personal change, considering our own life and that of our partner. While when we avoid, we do not accept or face the situation, that is, the problem is still there, although hidden.

When we make decisions to change, it is because, once we accept the situation, we decide that this is not how we want to live, and without trying to change the situation or the people, It is we who change the course of our life projection.