Kindness does not need manuals, it arises spontaneously

Perhaps you have ever wondered what the manual of good people is, what they read and where they learn to have that kindness, that light that lights up or enhances the virtues of others, since their manners and their ability to listen are different from many others.

Actually, Good people do not know the immense good they do around them and can even become discouraged due to their extreme sensitivity.an essential quality in the times we live in.

These people will have doubts and even torment themselves, wondering if they are doing right or wrong. Their way of being is so pure and sincere that they are what you see, without further duplicity, which makes them the target of many attacks.

Every reflection about what we do is positive, but Certain people do not need manuals or great references to act kindly wherever they go: It is the true expression and meaning of goodness, which is always spontaneous, never feigned. Promoted as a natural virtue, never imposed based on dogmas and rules.

Kindness doesn’t need to be read, just applied

Every child has a pure soul that will need to adapt to the environment that surrounds them with more or less patience, since our temperament, biology and environment make us different. Rousseau already pointed out that “Man is good by nature“It is society that corrupts it.” Maybe he was right.

We can see this innate goodness in very young children who are enjoying optimal development. The child who integrates the other classmates into the game, who tries to heal a badly injured bird and who gives hugs and smiles. A restless child, but always exuding passion and joy.

When education nullifies our virtues

The high rates of violence that our society has always recorded prompts us to reflect: what are we doing wrong in education? of our little ones so that innate and spontaneous kindness turns into bitterness, frustration and violence. What spiritual and social models do we instill in them so that at a point in their development they do not want to establish links, but rather comparisons and competition.

What can we do to encourage natural goodness?

There are no detailed strategies or plans to increase kindness in a child, since simply by not establishing counterproductive educational methods, good actions usually appear. Nevertheless, There are always ways to promote nobility:

Reject blame from the entire educational system: Guilt is not only an unnecessary mechanism, but it is also enormously toxic in people. When we make someone feel guilty, thinking that we will punish them and they will not repeat something that seems wrong to us, we are encouraging that person to think that what they have done wrong represents them. We are telling him in some way that he is bad, so that on another occasion he will act as we tell him he is.stop judging: We are not anyone’s “pepito cricket”. People choose their own paths and make their own decisions and as children we begin to show our own individuality and character. Instead of educating to obey, we should unconditionally accept the character of each of the children around us. They are not designed to cover your shortcomings, to be a weapon against any adult or to resolve your frustrations.Set limits: civility and good education are not repressive, but liberating. Respecting others means knowing where my rights, duties and pleasures reside, as well as knowing the limit and border that separates each of them.Contact with nature and animals: Nature offers us calm and animals unconditional love. These two virtues are the basis of all human development, because in the tranquility of listening to and knowing the points of view of others we develop empathy.

Therefore, The best thing we can do to make goodness arise is to stop continually asking ourselves what is wrong with us. Being a good person is sometimes as simple as stopping questioning yourself and starting to heal yourself and others. Do not force it or try to find a guide that tells you what to do at all times since, as we have said, true kindness is spontaneous, never something plagiarized.

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