Keys to detect a vain person

Do you know someone who believes they are always right? Do you feel that he treats others with contempt or superiority? If the answer is yes, then you have identified how the vain people. With this type of attitude they show that they idolize themselves as much as they despise others.

Vanity is defined as pride and excessive appreciation of one’s own merits and abilities. Likewise, vain people assume that others hold them in very high esteem and consideration because they are at a higher level. His personality is made up of an excess of arrogance and conceit.

3 traits of vain people

Pride

“Do not dirty the fountain where you have quenched your thirst.” This phrase from William Shakespeare perfectly summarizes one of the main psychological traits that all vain people have in common: arrogance.

Haughty people cannot hide easily because pride betrays them. Your sufficiency and pride may go more or less unnoticed on a day-to-day basis. But as soon as they find themselves in a slightly more compromised situation, pride emerges without the possibility of controlling it.

Therefore, its psychological implications go beyond the bad image that these people have socially. The difference between arrogance and pride is that the latter does not come with the need to devalue other people, pride does.

Narcissism

vain people they feel a disproportionate love towards themselves and they live in a world of excessive fantasies of success, power and beauty. This makes them pretentious and admire and evaluate themselves excessively.

However, His airs of grandeur hide a strong mistrust and insecurity. Therefore, they are constantly aware of what people think of them and their image. That is, on the one hand, they want to show that they do not care about any opinion other than their own.

On the other hand and paradoxically, what other people say about them obsesses them. Deep down, narcissism hides a weakness.

Megalomania

Although it is closely related to narcissism, megalomania has a somewhat more pathological nuance. It is considered a mental disorder because it manifests itself in the form of a rigid pattern of behavior based on fantasies, delusions of grandeur and the constant search for self-gratification.

Vain people with megalomaniac tendencies think that they are very socially relevant, They consider themselves capable of doing truly great things and possessing enormous wealth. However, these beliefs are irrational and overrated.

How do they behave?

Vanity leads to arrogant behaviors that entail a strong desire to be admired by others. Some of these behaviors are:

They almost always believe they are right

Lack of modesty and humility makes people believe they are right simply because of who they are. Therefore, on many occasions, vain people They use a position of false power or authority over others to defend and impose their points of view.

They are aware of their public image, but without showing it

They constantly need to know how they are considered or what others think of them. However, they try to hide that need and appear indifferent. The importance they give to social networks is notablethe first stage in which their pretensions to magnificence are usually displayed.

They seek to stand out and be the center of attention

Vain people seek to stand out from the rest because they consider themselves magnanimous. They add theatricality to everything they do, even when presenting to strangers. In fact, sometimes they even look like they’ve come straight out of a piece of performance art. They tend to dramatize moments of their daily lives and sweeten others, as if they were playing a fictional role.

They get angry over trifles

Pride makes them angry over unimportant details or situations. For example, if they believe that you are not paying enough attention to them, they often unconsciously look for any excuse or oversight to confront you.

They instrumentalize others

Narcissistic people They treat the people around them as objects or means to their ends. The objectification of others feeds their pretensions and their consideration as superior beings. And their airs of grandiosity make them manipulate others to use them as a way to obtain greater power.

Now, loving yourself is not synonymous with being narcissistic or vain. It is a sign that our self-esteem and self-concept are in good condition. However, believing oneself has the moral authority to step on others only shows pride and lack of humility.

They express themselves theatrically

Vain people also tend to be excessive and exaggerated in their way of expressing themselves, so that they seem like actors playing a leading role.

When they speak, they gesture as if they were in a play. Thus, they attract the attention of their audience. Let us remember that the vain person does not communicate with equals, for him others are an audience that must admire him and celebrate everything he does and says.

What leads a person to be vain?

We must keep in mind that the vain person is not born, but rather made. In this case, Parenting style and childhood experiences play an important role in the development of this trait.

For example, It is quite common that, in their childhood, vain people have been valued excessively by others and the value of effort has not been instilled in them. Thus, behaviors are generated aimed at achieving one’s own goals by minimizing the opinions, values, emotions or ideas of others.

In this sense, it is very likely that vain people are children of parents who They used to idealize their achievements and qualities; without giving them the opportunity to make them see in which aspects they should improve. In other words, these parents did not know how to openly express to their children that they are not right, that they are not right and, above all, they were not able to convey to them that nothing happens.

Thus, they create an unconscious pattern of thoughts and behaviors of always being right, avoiding self-judgment and self-criticism.

What is it like to live with a vain person?

As we can see, Living with a vain person can be very complicated. Especially because of his need to be the center of attention, his lack of empathy and tendency to get irritated by everything.

Therefore, it is quite common that The relationship with this type of people tends to deteriorate over time, since it does nothing but generate negative feelings towards those around him. In the long run, the healthiest thing for others is to distance yourself and set clear boundaries.

How to reduce vain and narcissistic behaviors?

In the words of Bermejo, FS (2007) listening to others, learning to enjoy each other’s company, we dare to miss each other and need each other.. It is not necessary to eliminate differences and globalize everything.

It is necessary to respect individuality and subjectivity, which is not the same as individualism and superficiality. Possibly this is the basis for leading a calm, serene and non-narcissistic life..

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