Karmic relationships: 13 signs to know if you are in a relationship

Think for a minute about all the people who have passed through your life.

According to research by Esteban Moro, a researcher at the MIT Media Lab, at the end of our lives we will have linked up with 5,000 people. That’s a lot of opportunities for…learning.

The truth is that some people will simply pass by, and others will stay for a long time.

But whether they are still in your life today, or have long since left, there are people who really leave their mark.

So you ask yourself, is this person who affects me so intensely part of a karmic relationship? Or is it a spiritual connection? How to know?

And just as thousands of people will pass through our lives, the truth is that there is no single karmic relationship for each one.

For better or for worse you could live many.

There are those who affirm that karmic relationships do not last long, but they come to bring us the greatest learning lessons in life and love.

Here I want to make a small clarification, and it is that we are not talking about karma understood as “what you give comes back”. While I believe in that philosophy, here we are talking about another aspect of karma.

Since these karmic ties are something so important for our development and personal growth, surely that is the reason why you wonder if you are in one. So let’s get to it.

The 13 signs to identify karmic relationships

1) They are extremely intense

Whether it is a very passionate love relationship or someone with whom you have too many differences.

A clear characteristic of karmic relationships is that they will be very intense.

It’s not just about flirting with someone you think you might like.

Not a more or less heated debate with a coworker you don’t agree with.

These relationships will touch your deepest fibers. From awakening an almost irrational passion, to making you explode with rage.

I will illustrate an example. The first person that comes to my mind is a friend, with whom I have also had a loving relationship.

Every time we saw each other the attraction was instant. She felt like we were never going to stop wanting each other. But giving in to that desire only brought us trouble.

We related in such opposite ways that a war broke out between us. Pain, anger and indignation arose.

We hurt each other, to the point where we decided to distance ourselves and it would start all over again.

In the end I realized that it was a relationship that had come to show me something. And I was very aware that until I saw it clearly this would continue to happen.

That’s what karmic relationships are all about. They are relationships that go deep and do not go unnoticed.

2) The attraction is instant and persistent but also unstable

These types of relationships are not those that arise calmly and are built over time. That could well be a spiritual connection between a man and a woman.

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Rather in the case of karmic relationships, it is an attraction the moment you meet the other person.

Whether you feel love at first sight or intense chemistry, you will be attracted to that person very spontaneously and from the beginning of the relationship.

You feel it and somehow you perceive that the same is happening to the other.

This could be because they have already crossed paths in past lives (if you are one of those who believe in them) and are being drawn through energy and karma.

And just as that intense passion appears, it could suddenly disappear without giving explanations.

3) You feel that meeting that person was something that had to happen

Beyond the fact that it may feel good or bad to be with that person, you feel that it is someone that for some reason you had to come across in your life.

It will not feel like something superficial, but rather you will think that you were destined to meet.

You could even interpret it as a sign from the universe about love.

As if a superior force had conspired so that their paths crossed.

But here is something that goes beyond love and actually has to do with a life lesson.

4) There is a lot of drama and they bring out the worst in you

Surely you know the expression “putting your finger in the sore spot”. Well, a sign of karmic relationships is exactly this.

When you feel that the other person has that effect on you.

It’s like it knows exactly what hurts you the most and uses it against you. And it is what often generates a constant cycle of breakups and reconciliations.

He awakens that dark side within you that you refuse to acknowledge or accept. Perhaps he is an aspect of you that you were unaware of but now you must begin to see.

Here it is very important that you become aware that no one acts against you or in your favor.

People are just different. Things happens.

That someone awakens those emotions in you is simply a way that life has to show you something that you must see.

Think, why does what this person does affect you so much? Is it something you have too? Is there something you strongly resist?

5) Hasn’t this happened before?

A great sign of karmic relationships is repeating patterns. I’m sure you know what I mean.

It happens to all of us that there are certain situations that repeat themselves over and over again.

Here the question you have to ask yourself is, what do I have to learn from this situation that keeps repeating itself? And it is essential that you be honest with yourself.

Is the relationship you have with this man intermittent?

Does every time you cross paths seem like you are repeating the same story over and over again? Then it is a clear sign that it is a karmic relationship.

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These relationships seem to stagnate at one point, but this is so you can finally see what you need to let go of or accept in your life.

6) There is a significant degree of obsession

Almost like the effect of a drug, karmic relationships generate a kind of addiction.

As much as you know that this person could cause you great pain, you cannot avoid going back to him.

There is such a strong attraction that at times you cannot do more than let yourself go.

If it is a karmic relationship, there may be many ups and downs of passion and attraction.

It could be due to a physical appearance component, someone too handsome, or an enigmatic personality that you love.

The truth is that there is something in that person that attracts you like a magnet, and even if you know that it is not good for you, you cannot let it go.

7) The relationship can become codependent

Due to the strong emotions that karmic relationships arouse, it could happen that they become a toxic bond.

Your worst fears will awaken and you might even think that he is the only source of your happiness.

There are those who may feel that they cannot live without the other person.

Perhaps you find yourself constantly thinking about him, or trying to do everything to keep him by your side.

This dependency could become much more than physical, and also invade your mental and even emotional space.

If you have reached this point there is something you must do to break the vicious circle.

If you want to read more about the solutions to overcome an emotional dependency, I share an article that can help you here.

8) There is selfishness

Another aspect that frequently arises in karmic relationships is selfishness.

One of the two sees the link as something functional and is not willing to give up their desires and interests.

Even knowing that this could harm the other person involved.

He could hide behind the excuse that you already knew what he was like and that you can’t pretend otherwise.

Basically he does not take your needs into account, nor is he aware of your limits and what you need.

9) There is jealousy

Another aspect of intense karmic relationships is jealousy. Maybe they are together or not.

But if he knows that other men are trying to seduce you, or that you’re even seeing someone, he won’t be able to stand it.

He will approach you almost immediately and will do everything possible to be with you.

He needs to know that you still want him, and he can’t stand the thought of someone else owning your heart (and your body).

In the same way they will lose interest when they feel that they have you at their disposal again.

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10) You feel exhausted

Given the special characteristics of karmic relationships, there comes a point where you feel exhausted from them.

You get tired of going around the same discussions, it exhausts you to think that they do not advance or go back.

It frustrates you to feel like you’re stuck in an endless cycle. And the fatigue is not only mental but you see it reflected in your body as well.

If you feel extremely tired of the dynamics in your relationship, it could well be a karmic relationship.

11) They can’t last

After all of the above, it is not uncommon to think that a karmic relationship is destined to come to an end.

Once you learn the lessons to see from this encounter, or decide to walk away, the bond will inevitably break.

But it could also happen that they transcend their great differences and what separates them and learn to relate in a different way.

This will depend on your level of consciousness and his.

In the end the end of their karmic relationship will happen, however they resolve it.

12) You will rise from the ashes

The phoenix bird could perfectly represent the end of the cycle of a karmic relationship.

A lot will happen in between, fire, passion, anger, pain, to a point where you feel devastated, maybe.

But after that storm calm comes, and you will rise stronger.

For the most part, the people who arouse the strongest emotions in us are those who make us grow the most.

So now you can thank for this person who has come to show you something that you were unaware of until now.

Could the lesson have been easier? Yeah, but that’s how life works.

13) An invitation to love yourself

This is not something that applies only to karmic relationships. But they reflect it in a special way.

They are a call to work on yourself, accept and love yourself as you are.

They help you see that you can never control what happens around you or who is in front of you, but you can change the way you perceive what happens to you.

There is no good or bad in itself, just circumstances and people. You give value to all that and you must be aware that the power is within you.