It’s not love that sustains the relationship, it’s the way of relating that sustains love.

Loving is so simple. People are the ones who complicate things, people are the ones who idealize too much and forget to live the reality that, however complicated it may seem, is still beautiful to live. People forget that love needs to be fed but not with gifts and expensive dinners. Love doesn’t need to be financed to keep.

The problem is that people forget about each other’s favorite chocolate when they go to the market, they forget that a small memory about a small detail has the power to make the other’s heart beat faster and that the smile will be drawn little by little. on your face as if to say thank you.

People forget the favorite color, the favorite dessert, they forget that a romantic comedy movie, on a late afternoon on Sunday, is good. People forget to praise that new dress, to say how good the other looks even in that old pajamas.

People forget to take quality time to listen to each other. People forget to give a flower like that that we steal from someone else’s backyard (laughs). To praise the new perfume and to say to the feet of the ear how much you love that someone.

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You don’t need a bouquet at work, you don’t need to take it to dinner at an expensive restaurant, you don’t need to fill it with jewelry, buy expensive gifts. You don’t need that to keep the flame of love burning. That’s not what sets it on fire.

A kiss on the forehead makes anyone’s heart calm down, a hug when things are not going well makes us feel protected and watching that movie that the other wants so much, also makes us please.

Kisses next to the ear cause goosebumps and the sincere touch makes the body sway. The problem is that people are too intense at the beginning of a relationship and do everything to conquer the other, but they don’t know how to deal with all the feeling that sometimes – most of the time – doesn’t seem to fit inside us.

And here comes the countless gifts, the countless pleasures, the countless compliments and after a while, the insecurity goes away and we forget that we have to conquer every day. But this, contrary to what many people think, is not a burden, it is not an obligation and it is far from being a sacrifice.

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It’s simplicity that moves, it’s the good morning kiss, it’s the “I dreamed of you”, it’s the sincere and unexpected compliment, it’s the care, it’s making that passion fruit mousse, it’s preparing dinner at home and saying: “Just I had eggs, I made a delicious omelet for the two of us. I hope you like it”. A message left in the middle of a book is enough to make our hearts smile.

Go, text them in the middle of the afternoon saying you can’t stop thinking about that person, buy their favorite chocolate and show up by surprise. Go, she buys a rose – not a bouquet – and leaves a note saying how much you love her.

Don’t let yourself fall into the sameness, keep making that beautiful smile sprout, those beautiful eyes shine. Go on, keep making that body sway with your touch. Go, keep that flame lit and let it burn. Love rejoices with simplicity and it’s the little things that make our heart smile without fear, like someone who has someone by their side wanting to make us their home.

Thamilly Rozendo