It is not in your hands to change others, only yourself.

How many times have you tried to change others? It may have been you or they may have wanted to change you. Be that as it may, this is something that, no matter how hard we try, we will not be able to achieve. Let’s think about the case of telling someone to stop smoking. If that person doesn’t want to quit smoking, no matter how much you tell him to quit and accept it, he won’t do it. You just have to look at yourself and ask yourself: Would I do something I really don’t want to do?

We don’t live in a virtual world where you can change those around you, because in this real world there are only two options: accept or walk away. But at no time will the option to modify the way of being of others be present.

Don’t try to change others

To understand a little the fact that You cannot go through life trying to change the essence of third parties., no matter how much we insist on it. Therefore, we share with you this teaching that comes to us in the form of a story:

Let’s think carefully about what this short story wanted to tell us. The king thought that changing the entire people was going to be easy, that’s why he never thought about the other possibility. The same thing happens to us. We believe that changing others will always be easier than, for example, changing ourselves.

This is something that we learn and that we must begin to see with different eyes to avoid making the many mistakes that we make on many occasions. Trying to get others to change seems like the easiest option to us., much more than changing ourselves. Because there we can change. Your own change is possible, that of others is uncertain!

Accept, but don’t change

Why is it necessary to change to accept? Sometimes we love the person next to us so much that in order not to lose them we want them to change. But do you know what that entails? Changing someone causes that person to no longer be themselves.. You will steal its essence. If you really don’t feel comfortable with her, if you don’t accept how she is, how she acts, stay away!

It’s easy to say, but difficult to do. Yes indeed, you will lose strength and energy looking for a change that will never happen, but in which you will make an effort. Accepting people as they are costs us many more times than we think. Unconsciously we try to change them.

How many times have you gotten angry with someone because they don’t act the way you want them to? Let’s think about couples, which is where this state of wanting to transform the other occurs most. That he doesn’t act the way you want? Each one is free. If you don’t like the way he reacts or acts, why do you stay by his side?

Demand a lot from yourself and expect little from others

You can change, but only if you want to. Imagine that another person tells you to change, urges you that they can’t stand you like that and you try to change. That’s going to be impossible. You can only change if you propose it yourself.

Accept people as they are and never think that changing someone is the solution. It really is an easy and fruitless solution that may have many more consequences than you think. Don’t risk it. Change yourself, accept others.

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