Is your partner taking good care of you?

To love is to care, it is to take care and worry, it is to commit oneself emotionally to the couple’s project, it is to accompany each other in good and bad times, it is to cultivate teamwork and mutual support, it is the art of making one’s own life and that of others easier and more beautiful, It is the ability to feel empathy for someone you love, and to be supportive or supportive of the person with whom you share a piece of your life.

When our partner does not take care of us enough, our self-esteem is deeply damaged: If the other person does not care about our health, our state of mind, or our problems, then we feel that they do not care about us, or that we do not deserve the slightest attention from the person we love.

We are used to identifying ill-treatment in the form of hitting, insults, shouting, and comments loaded with contempt and hate. However, there is a type of abuse that is not recognized as violence: the lack of care

Being in a relationship where the other person takes care of you but doesn’t take care of you, sometimes it causes us great suffering and leads us to sustain unequal relationships loaded with pain and often dependency.

How do we know if they don’t take care of us enough?

Care is the basis of any love relationship, be it family, partner or friendship. When there is no reciprocity or empathy, or solidarity, or mutual support, then the relationship doesn’t workAnd not only does it not work: it can do us a lot of harm to stay in a couple in which there are no demonstrations of affection or acts of love.

Ask yourself some questions and try to answer them honestly, it can help you to know if they take good care of you (and if they love you well):

Questions to know if he cares about your health: How does your partner take care of you when you get sick with the flu? Do you assume your chores at home? Does he bring you medicines or natural remedies to make you better? Do you watch your forehead to know if you have a fever? Does he cook you food, does he bring you water or juices to hydrate you? Does he accompany you to the doctor? Does he change your sheets when you’ve wet them with sweat? Does he ask you if you want a blanket, if you need anything? Does he offer to help you in whatever it takes? Questions to know if he supports you in your projects: How do you react when you receive good news that is going to change your life? How does he take care of you when you are happy because you have won an award, a scholarship, a contest or when you receive recognition from your community? Are you happy about your successes? Do you envy that you are doing well? Does it support you in your projects from the beginning, or does it make it more difficult for you to make it more difficult for you to achieve your goals?

Questions to ask if he tries to spend quality time with you: Is your partner looking for time to share together? Is the time you spend together connecting with each other? Can you enjoy your moments fully? Questions to know if he cares for you emotionally: How does your beloved or your loved one take care of you when they are sad, nervous, worried, stressed or angry? How does your partner take care of you when you are sad? Is he able to perceive that you need to talk or do you have to ask him? Does he sit down to listen to you with attention and love? None or minimize your problems? Does he make fun of your feelings? Is he irritated by your sadness? Do you feel judged? Does he offer you a hug? Wondering what he can do to make you feel better? Does he take the initiative to have a detail with you that makes you feel better? Questions to know if he treats you well: How does he take care of you when there is a conflict? How does he treat you when you argue? Does he stop talking to you or cut off communication for days when he is angry? Does he insult you, humiliate you, make unsubstantiated accusations, hit you where it hurts, use the information he has about you to beat you up? Does he enjoy exercising his power over you? Do you always try to win the battle? Do you have the calm to sit down and talk it over quietly? Questions to know if I know how to accompany you: When you have problems, does he run away or offer his help? Does he get irritated when you feel overwhelmed with your problems? Does it encourage you or does it make everything blacker? If they can’t help you in any way, do you feel at least accompanied? Do you feel like you can vent to him? Does he make you feel like you can count on him? Does he give you sensible advice? Does he think about the topic to give you good ideas? How does he take care of you when you have a hard day or a bad day? Does your complaining put him in a bad mood?

Questions to know how he treats you when the problems are both: Does he blame you and attack you? Do you skip the subject and not talk about it to see if you solve it? Do you assume your share of responsibility in the matter? Are you willing to sit down and talk and work as a team to solve problems? How do you react in moments of anguish, uncertainty, nerves or tension? Does he treat you well at all times? Does he see you as a partner with whom to fight side by side to get ahead? Questions to know if you can count on him in extreme moments: How would I care for you if you were diagnosed with breast cancer that required chemotherapy? Do you think he would stay by your side? Would he offer his support? How would you react to an unwanted pregnancy? How would you react to a degenerative disease? And before a sudden disability? How would you react if you had to care for a relative intensively for some time? Can you ask him for favors? Questions to know if he respects you: Do you take into account the couple’s pacts or do what you want whenever you can? Do you think he is an honest person? Can you fully trust him? Does he take care of you when you are in public? Does he treat you well in front of people? Does it speak well of you to others? Does he feel proud of you and show it off without a problem? Is he ashamed of you? Does he make fun of you? Does he punish you with his silences? Questions to know if he cares what you care about: How do you take care of your people? How do you care for your pets and your plants? Can you count on him as your dearest friends? Questions to know if he is affectionate with you: How do you show your love in everyday life? Does he make you eat? Is loving? Does he ask you how you are, how you feel, how you are? caress you? Does he listen carefully when you speak? Do you feel that you give and receive the same?