Is it possible to start from scratch without harming others?

Leaving without leaving an address… Such an idyllic option?

Thousands of people choose to change their lives every year, leave their home or distance themselves from their family.. Others hesitate whether to do it or not, due to their responsibilities, fear of the unknown or existential emptiness.

What is the motivation for disappearing? How do these people rebuild their lives without starting from the past? What are the consequences of this abandonment on the people around them?

Although initially the idea of “leave everything” and “start from scratch” It can be very attractive to some people who live in extreme situations; The truth is that Building a full life again in totally new conditions is tremendously difficult.

Deciding on such a radical change without working on some foundations of each person’s history and personality will only increase the feeling of being adrift and repeating the same patterns of behavior that have already led to unhappiness in the past.

The most frequent reasons why people tend to make the decision to cut off all ties to their past are:

Fear of compromise.Excess responsibilities (acquired or imposed). Sensation of be living a meaningless life.Not feeling comfortable with themselves.Traumatic events.Family difficulties.Economic crisis.meet again with themselves.Abandon dysfunctional emotional relationships.Search for emotions.Desire of job progress.Take back control of their life.Search of anonymityfree yourself from labels.

Change your life without breaking everything

An option with less vital impact, but with greater guarantees of stability, is to change your life without breaking everything.

Many individuals have the same desire to break with everything, but they still do not do it and choose to a less drastic change, but no less profound in themselves and their environment:

-They have the same motivations to make a radical change, but they consider that this It should not mean leaving your entire work and family environment.

-They start exploring new sources of motivation and novelty in your environmenttrying to do different activities, meet new people and not frequent the same places as before.

-In the workplace they are looking for a promotion, change of sector or the possibility of greater geographic mobility. If this cannot be done, you can choose to change jobs but not domain.

-In the face of emotional difficulties, you can choose help from a professional that helps individually, in couples therapy or in family therapy.

-If you finally decide to break up a relationship, maintain emotional ties and responsibility but breaking ties of coexistence It is something more balanced for themselves and others.

The way you change your life influences your immediate environment

Everyone has the right to change their life if it does not satisfy them; but take into account the feelings of the people who make up your family, social and work circle can make the difference in carrying out a personal change that is more or less harmful to others:

For people who are abandoned suddenly and without explanation, This departure of a loved one can become a traumatic event..They don’t just question the fact of departure, but they begin to question themselves with a very marked feeling of guilt and anguish.They cannot carry out a mourning process in the face of this separation in a sensible way, but instead a feeling of condemnation regarding themselves, a feeling of not being able to forget, an irreparable mystery full of doubts and reproaches.

Therefore, changing in a way that involves completely abandoning your loved ones without giving explanations or time to assimilate and understand, engenders a double punishment: that of the one who leaves and that of the one who is abandoned.

Let’s try therefore do as little damage as possible, even if we believe that our breakup and departure is justified.