Is it love or am I just attached? See 14 signs that will clear your doubts!

Love is beautiful and we all want to enjoy that feeling. Sometimes, however, we confuse love with attachment or vice versa. However, there is a difference between loving and clinging. But how do I know if I’m just attached?

14 Signs You’re Just Attached

1. Attachment makes you a selfish person

When you love a person you are altruistic, that is, your actions benefit everyone around you, but attachment makes you selfish. If you really love this person, you will do your best to make them happy. You will also let her know that you care and want to meet her needs. True love doesn’t allow you to manipulate, trap, or force him to do things he doesn’t like.

2. You don’t care about his/her feelings

If you’re just attached to him/her, he/she won’t care much about his/her feelings. Instead, you’ll want him to do things that make you happy. In some cases, you will force him to do what you want without worrying about how he will feel afterwards.

3. You want to control him/her

When you are attached to a person, you quickly become frustrated if they don’t live up to your expectations, which is very selfish. If you love her, you won’t control her, but attachment makes that happen.

When you love, you become the best version of you and you will be free with each other.

4. Love means trust

Loving will make you develop trust and work towards your relationship success. With attachment it’s different, all that matters is if that person always does what you want.

5. Love has no time limit, attachment does

If you love a person, you don’t need to be in a hurry to take charge of your relationship or let people know about it.

You will want to learn more about this person, even if they are already your childhood friend. If you love her, you will also take the time to emotionally bond with her!

Attachment will make you force things, even when it doesn’t seem to be working. All you want to do is have her around, always, without thinking about how she feels.

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6. Love grows stronger with each challenge, while attachment weakens

If you love a person, you will fight, separate, reconcile and unite with them more and more, no matter what happened.

You will do anything to succeed in your relationship, no matter how many challenges you have to face together. If it’s a long-distance relationship, you’ll stay true to her and endure any challenges that come her way.

However, if you are just attached to that person, then everything is grounds for complaint. Your main target will be how many times you see her and you will not strive to develop a quality relationship. You will never have a long term goal with her as you don’t actually love her.

7. Love is a mutual feeling, but being attached is forcing things your way.

If you love her, you should return things without a second thought. Love will make both of you work towards a common goal. When you love a person, you understand that two are better than one. You will also know that there are things you can only achieve with her.

But if you’re just attached, you’ll never worry about the health of the relationship or whether she’s happy or not. You will generally not resolve serious issues as this is not your primary concern.

8. Love never fails, but attachment is illusory

If you love your partner, you will never forget them, even if you are not together. For you, he is the only person you would share life, secrets, accomplishments with. You will do everything in your power to have him around.

9. Attachment makes you want to talk to the person all the time

While communication is a very healthy thing in a relationship, attachment takes you to the extreme. If you are attached to a person, you will feel the need to talk to them all the time, as if in your mind they are doing something that is not right, which is harmful to your health and also to the relationship.

10. Attachment makes you not give that person space to enjoy life

If you love a person, you’ll make room for them to have a normal life when you’re not together, which will also spice up your relationship.

You won’t have to ask her for satisfaction, call or text all the time. But attachment makes you feel insecure about that relationship and it makes you want to know every detail of that person’s steps.

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11. Attachment doesn’t let you trust this person

Attachment makes you a jealous partner unable to trust. You will probably live in fear of losing her to other people. the name said is possessive jealousywhich is one of the main characteristics of attachment.

12. You get stuck in old practices

Attachment can cause you to cling to old practices, which may not allow your relationship to flourish. For you, things will be going well even when everything is falling apart.

13. You give little, but demand a lot

Attachment makes you obsessively selfish and demanding. For you, the benefits of having this person in your life are more significant than your commitment to them.

14. Attachment causes you to lose your identity

Attachment causes you to lose your own identity, as it convinces you to believe that you cannot live without that person. All you will do is blindly pursue her and sometimes even fail to question her when she is wrong for fear of losing her.

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