Is it hard to love again? Change your way of thinking and believe in love again!

The end of the relationship leaves marks that are not always easy to erase. Find out what you can do to get back on your feet.

Elsa and António were together for 16 years. It was with him that she lost her virginity, it was with him that she married and had a child and it was also with him that she separated when the love that united them disappeared. After the end, relief, but also the fear of loneliness and the fear of not finding a partner with whom to share worries and achievements.

Replacing negative thoughts about the fear of being alone with more positive ones can change the way you feel about loneliness and change your life as well.. Here’s what you can do to deal with some of the main doubts that tend to arise at this stage:

“I’m not old enough to date again”

Instead of letting this statement take over your thoughts, instead think of phrases like “I deserve to be loved! Whatever the age!”

Any age is good for dating, because in love there is no time, only feelings.

“Who will want me?”

It is one of the most common fears. Think before “I don’t have to prove anything to anyone and I don’t let the judgment of others interfere with what I want”.

Accept yourself as you are, and you will feel worthy of all the love and attract people to you.

“I no longer want to start a relationship again”

At an early stage, this may even be your thinking. Over time, things will change. Think about phrases like “I deserve to be happy. If, for that, I have to try again, I am available”.

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Starting all over again is a challenge. Each restart brings with it a renewed potential for happiness.

“What if I don’t get reciprocated?”

This is another one of the most common fears. Think first “Not being reciprocated is not the end of the world. I prefer that to having a relationship where I won’t be happy.”

There is a time and a right time for everything in this life. If you don’t reciprocate, it’s because it wasn’t the right time or person. Trust that life will take you to the person you are looking for, at the right time, at the right time.

“I’d rather be unhappy in a relationship than be alone”

Be very careful with this kind of thinking, because in addition to being toxic, it can bring significant harm to your life. Think before “I deserve to be happy even if it means ending my relationship”.

By staying in a relationship that doesn’t satisfy you, you’ll never know if you would have been happy otherwise.