In love with an overthinker? You need to know these 16 things

Do not leave room for interpretation when it comes to your words, messages, emails, phone calls, or interactions with someone who is overthinking.

Part of the problem overthinkers have is that they read between all the lines, even when they want to make it clear that there are no lines to read between the lines.

You need to be able to keep up with it and further clarify your messages so there is no room for error or confusion.

If you allow the messages you send to get fuzzy, which usually happens when people are lazy with their communication skills, you’re having trouble with your overthinking relationship.

10) Be okay with making a lot of decisions

Overthinkers are plagued by indecisiveness. This means they spend more time thinking about something than actually doing it, if at all.

When you decide to get into a relationship With an overthinker, remember that many of the decisions in the relationship require you to take the lead.

That’s not to say that your thoughtful partner isn’t capable of providing valuable insight into the decision-making process, but it may never pass the evaluation phase of a decision. So it’s better if you just get used to being in charge for both of you.

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11) Don’t get excited about surprises

Remember that not everyone loves a surprise party. Even good surprises can throw an overthinker off track. So save yourself the trouble of having an awkward moment of surprise and don’t plan one.

Instead of showing up with surprise plans, talk about what you want to do for special occasions and come to a consensus enough that you can take over the business of government and make the decision from there.

12) Get ready for random news and bouts of insecurity

Despite your best efforts, if you date someone who’s overthinking, you’ll still get the weird (possibly common) message that you’re insecure or insecure.

People suffering from overthinking cannot help him, but read into everything, including the good and bad news you are sending.

Since texting or emailing is unlikely to go out of style any time soon, it’s worth setting a few parameters for your conversations and modes of communication so you don’t find yourself in the middle of a miscommunication that could have been avoided by simply picking up the phone reached out to speak to each other.

If there’s something important to talk about, make a deal where you always have a phone conversation so your overthinking partner doesn’t have to worry so much about what’s not to say.

13) Intervention becomes your middle name

When you’re with someone who’s overthinking, you’re going to need to take the lead in many things, including in the middle of an overthinking moment that doesn’t serve anyone.

If you find that your partner is out of control sometimes, you need to get right in the middle of those thoughts and change the conversation or make the decision for both of you.

14) Be ready to distract when necessary

Sometimes you need to completely shift gears by moving the room, walking, dancing, laughing, changing the subject — or any of a million other ways to distract someone who’s worried about something.

It won’t always work, but if you want to be in a relationship with an overthinker, you have to become good at taking her mind off her thoughts.

15) Get ready for new experiences

One of the great things about dating an overthinker is that they can plan like it’s none of their business. They are great at planning trips, experiences, adventures and more because they can think through all the details.

The problem, however, is that it might be difficult for them to commit to just one thing, so you should also be prepared to do many things in one trip.

16) Prepare for some epic conversations

Another great thing about dating an overthinker is that they let their brain run wild and that means you can basically talk to them about anything and everything.

If you keep the conversation focused then you should not contribute to her overthinking so you enjoy her magical brain the way it is and you will never get bored in your relationship.

17) Learn to live in the moment

If there’s one thing Overthinkers are good at, it’s live in the moment.

Sometimes this moment is filled with fear for the future, but they are great at seeing the million ways a situation could play out. If you play your cards right, you can see the big picture and enjoy what’s happening.

Conclusion: what’s next?

Intimate relationships are always hard work, but it takes a special kind of person to be with an overthinker.

But if you can understand your partner’s wants, needs and desires in life to support them, you will create a strong relationship that will be one of the greatest experiences of your life.

Let’s be honest: all relationships can be improved when you develop a deeper understanding of what the other person wants from it.

However, men (especially those who think too much) see the world differently than you do and we want different things from a relationship.

This can make a passionate and loving relationship — something that men really want deep down too — really hard to achieve.

I know it’s a rethink to open up to you can feel like an impossible task. But I recently found a new way to help you understand what drives him in your relationship…

James Bauer is one of the world’s leading relationship experts.

And in his new video, he unveils a new concept that brilliantly explains what really drives men to be romantic. He calls it the heroic instinct. I talked about this concept above.

Put simply, men want to be your hero. Not exactly an action hero like Thor, but he does want to step up the plate for the woman in his life and be appreciated for his efforts.

The hero instinct is probably the best kept secret in relationship psychology. And I think it’s the key to a man’s love and dedication to life.

You can watch the video here.