In bad times the faces of your true friends will shine

There are people who help us not fall into the most complicated moments. People who offer us their time and love so that we feel better. A shoulder to cry on that does not ask you for anything in return, but rather obtains its gratification when we achieve the emotional relief that is so necessary in bad times. They are our true friends.

Therefore, as they say, in your worst moments you will know who deserves to be in your best. Because These people are an anchor of reality, a support, a connection to our life and the good things they contain in it.

That’s why our time, wrapped or unwrapped, is a wonderful gift. A gift that is based on reciprocity, a good so precious that we must carefully select it, since not everyone or every cause deserves to get hold of it.

Emotional communication, basis in bad moments

We tend to think that the people around us should read between the lines. To the question “what’s wrong with you?” We usually answer “nothing” or a few words of indecipherable content. We make the mistake of being concise when it comes to putting words to our most distressing emotional experiences.

This is due to a kind of magical thinking based on expectations, we believe that others have to know how to distinguish and know how to act at all times. We make mistakes and, as a consequence, we are unfair.

So be careful!! Be careful not to make the mistake that others can guess our conflicts and our discomfort. If we do not explicitly communicate our story, many of those around us may not understand the seriousness of our condition.

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It is dangerous to play fortune tellers and, as most of us have probably already experienced, It is common that if we let ourselves be guided “because of expectations” let’s fall into a tremendous mistake.

When we talk about relationships, reasoning like “I would do it for you” or “you should have seen it” is not valid. No. It is important that we make our feelings known and ask for help. Contrary to what it may seem to us, that does not make us vulnerable.

It is good that we are selective when it comes to telling our battles, our story.

In this sense it is positive that we become aware that in part we are the ones who leave “enter some people and not others”, those of us who, with the expectations that accompany us, put the actions of others in check.

That’s why, When someone lets us down, we must also analyze our behavior as objectively as possible. We must avoid that “In his place I would have done it” and put other types of words to conflict and disappointment.

Playing a bit of devil’s advocate I will tell you that It is necessary to exalt the need to try to abstract what we are and get into the other, in their thought patterns, in their emotions, in their reality. This will save us more than one disappointment.

When communication flows: emotional support

It is wonderful to have people in life who “are there” precisely when we need them. We have no doubt about that. These hugs and shared silences complete us in moments when emotional emptiness harasses us.

When we allow it, there are those who raise their bonds and hold us up so that we do not fall off the cliff, so that we do not experience gravity in all its harshness. They understand the risk, but they are not scared.

They portray in their permanence the face of sincere appreciation, of kindness, of the metamorphosis of the relationship, of drive, of emotional support, of the “unbearable” unfathomable sadness, of our disconnection, of our impatience, our despair, our self-deception. .

Those people are the ones who have listened to us when our eyes were blurred with tears, the ones who have stopped the blows we have tried to inflict on ourselves for fear that we would hurt ourselves even deeper.

It is not that the presence of those we love most requires grand gestures or courtesy visits, rather we talk about the company, the words of encouragement, the encouragement we need. Thus, those who are in those moments in which we are not pleasant or attractive, in which we vent our frustrations and are unfair, in which suffering prevents us from being considered, deserve to be by our side in the good moments.

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Whoever remains, apart from everything, by our side when we are in darkness, deserves to accompany us in moments of great luminosity. They deserve gratitude, warmth, affection and joy. They deserve a worthy and valuable celebration, they deserve their reward.