If you feel lonely when you’re with you, you’re in bad company.

Why, in general, do we avoid solitude? Why do most of us prefer to be accompanied most of the time? Many people avoid being alone at all costs, Hence they look for a thousand and one plans to do with other people. They are afraid of feeling alone, of remaining silent with themselves and in turn, they experience a great need to be with people so as not to see them face to face.

However, We can learn many things from solitude. This teaches us and leads us to improvement. In fact, learning to be alone can take us further than any company, you just have to know how to look.

The bitterest side of loneliness is that feeling that stops us from feeling loved, sheltered or appreciated. Imposed and unchosen loneliness is not the most pleasant situation we can experience, but it can make us grow a lot.

The only voice we hear when we are alone is that of our internal dialogue

Solitude is the great shaper of the spirit. Therefore, we can use it as a tool to enhance our personal growth. When we are alone, we only hear our voice, that internal dialogue that most of the time makes us so uncomfortable and that we try to silence with noise and company since we are conscious. We’re not really scared of loneliness, we’re scared of what we have to say to ourselves.

Solitude is to the spirit what diet is to the body. While it may be silent as light, it is also, like light, one of the most powerful agents. Being alone is something intrinsic to human beings and essential for them. All men come into this world alone and leave it in the same way.

So, In solitude we find nothing more than what we carry inside us. Therefore, the moments of being without anyone around us are the most conducive to getting to know ourselves. Knowing how to listen to ourselves is the best remedy against the fear of not being surrounded by people.

The first condition to engage in a healing internal dialogue is to develop the ability to understand and value ourselves. Listen, accept and recognize what we have to tell ourselves It opens the door to a cozy place where we can feel protected.

If you feel alone, do not forget that loneliness is the only thing that does not abandon us

Loneliness is the only thing that does not abandon us. This phrase full of humor and sarcasm hides a truth that can be uncomfortable. Everyone, at some point, we have felt abandoned. We have been forced to embrace a painful and profound independence. The one that, whenever everything else abandons us, welcomes us into its refuge.

However, We will never find anyone who makes us as good company as solitude. Because if we choose it freely we can use it to manage and put in order what we think and feel.

We believe that being an adult means being independent and not needing anyone. However, sometimes this search for independence can end up harming us. That’s why we all, at some point in our lives, feel like we’re dying of loneliness.

Now, it is important that you remember that In that moment when you feel alone, helpless and abandoned, it is the one you need to be with you the most. That’s the one where you have to hug yourself so tight until you feel like it’s there, with you. And this is. Without a doubt, one of the greatest ironies of life.

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