I like social networks, not fake virtual lives

Social networks are nothing more than an alternative communication channel to share information and interact in another way with people who are either far away or who are part of our daily lives. It is a useful, dynamic tool that allows us to receive great information in an instant and show aspects of ourselves that would otherwise be difficult for us.

Sometimes social networks saturate us, sometimes they entertain us and other times we would like to disappear from them. without anyone noticing for a while and come back the same way. We do not always find true information in them, but that happens in any media or in any social interaction.

Social media can be fun, useful, and emotionally positive if you know how to use it, like any other technological tool. However, There is a very marked emotional component in them: everything related to social acceptance and the validation that we obtain from people we care about.

This can transform a social network into a showcase of falsehood, of virtual lives that have no relationship with the real life of the person behind the screen.

From fun to slavery for a virtual image

Few of us know the line between giving a pleasant image on social networks and becoming a false version of ourselves. Although the desire to please is something logical and understandable, Not knowing how to set limits on our activity in a virtual environment can lead to problems. emotional, identity and unrest.

There are some points that can put us on alert:

Not setting an appropriate privacy filter for friends, acquaintances and strangers: If we show the same information to everyone, we are exposing too much of ourselves to a medium with infinite connections between users, with the risks that this entails.Sacrificing our sincerity for a handful of “likes”: many people post publications that, if they do not receive a number of likes certain, they can feel sad and devalued in front of others.

Far from managing these emotions, Many choose to accept an indeterminate number of strangers, never eliminating users with whom they no longer have any relationship or with whom they even have conflicts. in the hope that any photo can overcome what they consider “popular” to be “successful.” Whether it is a plate of decorated beans or a disconnection walk in the mountains, receiving likes Even if they are from people they don’t even know, it gives them a “boost of self-esteem.”

Show that you have friends at all costs: full of filters, smiling faces, exaltation of friendship. We have all taken these types of photos on some occasion when we really couldn’t stand the person next to us or we were having a really bad time that day.

This is the “light” version, what we call posture, but you may start arranging meetings or parties without feeling like it on a personal level just to seem like a socially active person. Maybe with your account in the red, you organize a trip just to show that your life is “active.”

The risk of the explicit: Everyone is free to show the romantic relationships they want, but if we show each of our ideal encounters, people may be surprised to see that these ideal images translate into “Kramer vs. Kramer” scenes in real life.

Showing the lie on a social network, regarding your friends, partners or family can cause people to mistrust you, not take you seriously or directly consider you someone with a lack of self-esteem and character.

Declarations of love and eternal friendship that are not accompanied by interest in life outside the computer: If two friends love each other, any means is good to do it. But certain people may feel overwhelmed by receiving dozens of public declarations of friendship on social networks, in front of a huge audience, and yet not being able to count on that person when they really need them.Making an ex-partner jealous, even when we are with people we dislike or don’t care about: Some people feel desperate to show that they have been “the first to recover” from a breakup, altering the course of relationships with other people, trying to take photos to make the other person feel “that they have won the game.”Showing that we are overjoyed when in reality we feel sunken: Showing that we are delighted with our jobs, trips, children, friends and partners when it is not true can lead us to such a degree of hypocrisy that it implies not making important decisions in order to continue maintaining that farce, to avoid “what people will say.”

We believe that maintaining a life in the network of perfection will make certain people envious, when in reality for them perhaps your profile is totally irrelevant. Maintaining a farce, at the expense of what we really want to change in our lives.

Emotional implications as a consequence of a false virtual life

The less sincere you are in your virtual interactions, the more prey you will be to them. You can publish, you can comment, you can interact, but always trying to ensure that your behavior on social networks reflects what you really are as much as possible.

Maybe you don’t have “200 likes” on each photo, but you will really like to receive loving comments from people you truly appreciate and with whom you do have a minimum of relationship or who at a given moment in your life were special and still do today. They continue to be, although time and distance are involved.

That’s why I like – and this is true, without a button in between – that my social network is as faithful as possible to what I want to be in it.I feel like keeping certain things to myself and I don’t feel like laughing thank you to someone I don’t even greet in real life.

I like social networks, but I don’t like virtual or live falsehood. I am not interested in being a leader, I am more interested in preserving my tranquility and my personality in the face of the tyranny of the likes that one day I found funny and today they disturb me: those that are only a number, not a gesture of pleasure.

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