I also deserve to be looked for

We shouldn’t walk behind someone who sees us coming and avoids us. We should not follow behind when they already know where we are, they know our intention to walk along their path and they do not make way for us. No. We have to give ourselves a chance and keep the following phrase in mind: whoever wants me should look for me.

Affection is not begged for and lack of interest kills it. It’s time to tear minutes from the clock and leaves from the calendar. It is time to re-emerge, to love ourselves and to work on our dignity. So, whoever wants me should look for me. Affection does not speak the same language as selfishness and indifference. No, affection is sincere, neutral, cordial, reciprocal; He only knows about interest when he seeks the common benefit, when he tries to water his tree and grow.

What “crawling” means for our self-esteem and emotional well-being

“Crawling” and begging for crumbs of attention and affection leaves a permanent mark on our self-esteem and emotional well-being. Being ignored makes us feel small, insignificant and vulnerable. Added to this is helplessness, frustration and anger at not achieving the type of relationship we would like to have with that person who ignores our presence and belittles our interest.

Our self-concept is totally diminished when this happens. Feeling this way, in part, causes us to become incapable of maintaining a correct attitude towards ourselves.

Restoring what time and the indifferent attitudes of others have diminished is not an easy task. Putting our pieces back together requires pride, courage and a certain “healthy selfishness.” which is nothing more than starting to take care of ourselves above all things.

Don’t search, let them find you

Start looking for yourself and allow them to find you. Running after people who ignore you is poisoning you. Whoever loves you will look for you and whoever doesn’t is simply not a person who should be by your side.

Do you know that about starting to fly? Well, it’s time to put it into practice, spread your wings and take flight again. So take back the reins of your life and surround yourself with people who do not enjoy your pleas, who do not drown you and who do not feed on selfishness.

We must know that the pretensions of the selfish heart come to mark our path. Therefore, we must try to get rid of those stones that have gotten into our shoes as soon as possible.

Therefore, to restore both our self-esteem and our self-perception of our worth and individuality, we must emphasize that nothing can be possible if we do not take care of ourselves and do not give ourselves the opportunity to let what others do not govern our lives.

The normal thing is that once we break these vicious circles it is difficult for us to stop missing or longing for something we never had but always wanted. It is likely that, in fact, we mishandle our own roulette wheel and fail to tune in to what truly makes us happy.

But Letting go of what does not benefit us always brings new and good winds to our lives. Little by little we will rediscover that idea that we only need ourselves to live, that we are the most essential people in our lives and that we deserve to surround ourselves with those who appreciate our company.

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