How to know if I am in a toxic relationship – Learn +20 warning signs to recognize the problem

A toxic person in a relationship considers that the culprits for all the problems are others or at least the other person in the relationship. Any justification is valid for not admitting any of your own mistakes. For this reason, she uses expressions like “with everything I do for you.”

Person is not empathetic because he is only interested in his own benefit. It is never considered whether his actions are favorable or not for the couple, He doesn’t listen to you or put himself in your place.

For example, he takes advantage of any context to complain about the hardness of his work with long litanies. However, when you are the one who has reasons to complain about work and accumulated stress, your partner usually tells you things like “don’t give it importance, mine is serious.”

Your partner is not happy about other people’s good; In fact, he doesn’t care or even generally gets angry when others achieve an achievement. He constantly compares himself to others, including you, continually looking for flaws in others to enhance oneself. When others achieve something important, they will try to downplay it by making comments similar to “all fools are lucky”, “you shouldn’t be so happy/proud because it didn’t cost you much because…”, “it did cost me a lot to achieve, not like him or her”, etc.

It is very difficult for him to see the positive things of life and it seems that he likes to criticize any situation. It also seems that always expect the worst before anything that is to come, often even undermining your morale and taking away your optimism.

Will try remind you of your mistakes very frequently, bringing them to light whenever it suits him. It seems that usually has demands or that he considers that you are at his service and, even if you try, you will not make your relationship what it seemed to be at the beginning or that your partner will be satisfied. In short, with his attitude he will make you stop being sure of yourself.

Conflicts and fights are continuous. It seems that for your partner any reason is valid to argue. and always try to say the last word. will try manipulate or blackmail you to have power over your own decisions and create feelings of guilt. After making decisions, he or she will try to make you see that you have made them on your own initiative despite doing what he or she wanted.

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Undervaluing your successes and downplaying all your virtues will be another of their habits. Addresses you in a bad way both in public and in private, criticizing and even ridiculing your way of being, acting, dressing, etc. In this way, you may feel that you have to apologize to those around you by saying that “he is having a bad day” or “I don’t know what’s wrong with him, he’s never been like that.”

Furthermore, since he considers that he has the decision-making power in the relationship, will make most decisions without taking your opinion into account.

It bothers him that you spend time with family and friends, especially if you invest it with people you are jealous of. Also, check your activity on social networks, your calls or your expenses without any respect for your privacy. Jealousy and “overprotection” are really suffocating, even isolating you from the rest of the world.

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The Comparison to your previous relationships They are constants, whether real or fictitious. Apply any type of blackmail to have sexual relations even if you don’t feel like having them.

Basically, he only cares about his pleasure and manipulates you to do sexual practices that only he/she really likes, he demands it even though he knows that you really don’t like them. If you have sexual relations that generate a feeling of humiliation, stop to think about what is happening to your partner, because it is a toxic relationship.

Normally, you avoid doing things that bother him for fear of his excessive reactions. He appears very susceptible and almost everything you do or say can make him feel badpotentially becoming the object of their anger, indifference or contempt, even leading to physical aggression.

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Other signs that will help you know if you are in a toxic relationship are the following:

Control your bank accounts and ask for explanations about your invoices.Plan your life without your opinion and ask frequently about your schedule.Use emotional blackmail on you and if you don’t do what he wants, he gets angry. When he does you a favor, he immediately asks for compensation. He is excessively paternalistic with you. He influences you in bad ways to change your style.Always give in to arguments Because otherwise he won’t speak to you for days. He uses bad manners and is very demanding with you. You have sexual relations to make him feel satisfied or to avoid anger on his part. He blames you for all or many of his problems, both personal and professional.You don’t tell your friends or family about your relationship problems. for fear of what they might say to you and that they will find out and react in bad ways. You avoid talking about certain topics with your partner for fear that they will get angry or take it badly. Your jealousy puts you in a compromise at the time to meet other people.

Now that you have seen many of the signs of a toxic relationship and can better know if you are in one or not, we recommend reading these other articles about How to get away from a toxic person.

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