How to keep going when we lose motivation

The reasons to move forward are the stairs that will help us get out of any complicated situation.. Thus, in the event that these fail or are not there, everything usually falls apart.

People need something more than vital goals, we need those goals to make complete sense for us, to emerge as that internal force capable of giving us encouragement, hope and clear directions.

In recent years, self-help literature focused on working on our motivation has flourished with great momentum. There is also no shortage of great gurus, those who promise to turn us into people capable of achieving success, happiness and personal fulfillment.

All of those goals are respectable, there is no doubt. I like the scores, but sometimes the music is a little out of tune.

If we know something well from the field of psychology, it is that it is not easy to maintain motivation for a long time. It is not enough to tell a person “you can do everything you set your mind to», because in addition to not being true, other dimensions usually fail. Thus, even if you give someone sophisticated tools so that they can achieve their goals, it is common for them to give up at some point or even end up doubting their self-efficacy.

This issue is actually more complex than we think because To help someone achieve something, first, we must know where they are coming from.. And, sometimes, we start from the most absolute emptiness or from a present in which the past weighs too much. There where irrational ideas, lack of self-esteem and a delicate personal history abound.

Motivation without reasons is useless. The key is therefore to know what we want to fight for it despite the difficulties… despite past or present adversity.

From today onwards, may you not lack reasons to move forward.

Something worth understanding first is that motivation, like desire, often wanes. Now, this happening is normal, because not every day we have the same level of activation.

There are times when energy fails and spirits weaken due to various circumstances. Thus, far from criticizing ourselves for it, we have no choice but to accept it: we are not superheroes, we are people with better times and worse times.

Nevertheless, While the desire comes and goes, what should always remain in us are the reasons to move forward.. Remembering daily what we want and why we want it should always act as that reset button capable of activating us when necessary.

Let us therefore know what keys can help us maintain this mentality.

Where do you start from and what do you want?

Every journey begins from a place, from a starting point. Thus, when it comes to setting goals and those reasons why we will give ourselves courage and encouragement every day, It is necessary to clarify what our current situation is, being realistic.. It will be of no use to us, for example, to set ourselves the goal of becoming great musicians if we do not know how to play any instrument.

We also cannot dream of having a good job in another country if we do not have training, if we do not know the language of that area. Therefore, It is good to be clear about where we are starting from and what the path should be towards what we want to achieve..

Likewise, in addition to having that route plan, we must keep in mind that on this personal journey towards our objectives, there is no point in rushing. You have to go step by step, move forward calmly and always learning from the process.

Be genuine

It’s much easier to lose motivation when we work for goals that are not aligned with us. If you strive every day to meet the expectations of others, it is natural that the desire to keep trying does not arise in you.

For this, define who you are and what success means to you, and stay true to this idea. Being genuine is one of the biggest reasons to keep going.

Flexibility and acceptance (your goals may change)

Albert Ellis, renowned cognitive psychotherapist and father of rational emotive behavioral therapy, pointed out that it is positive to have goals, but there is no reason to follow them rigidly. For what reason? Basically because in the journey of life, needs can change at any given moment, although what can never fail are the reasons to move forward.

Your goal may not have been long ago, for example, having a good partner, a companion for life. However, currently this goal has been able to vary due to various circumstances.

Now you start from another reality and that objective is no longer a priority. After several experiences you value other things, but yes, Even though you haven’t found true love, you still have reasons to be happy.to continue advancing and growing in well-being.

It is not enough to wish, your motives demand movement and action

So that you never lack reasons to move forward, it is best not to stop. Despite the difficulties, despite the disappointments, the ideal is to continue accumulating experiences in your backpack. In this way, something we must understand is that nothing is achieved just by wanting it, because life does not wait, nor does it know magic or tricks, since the true magicians are ourselves.

Move and opportunities will appear. Look around you, get up every time you fall down, Make your reasons your motivation and daily action the engine with which to achieve daily goals.

You are not alone, find your tribe

Social support can become your greatest driving force in those moments when nothing seems to make sense. When you want to throw in the towel, surround yourself with those who love you and believe in youof those who are (like you) fighting for their dreams.

Emotions are contagious and we are all the result of the people with whom we spend the most time. So, be inspired by the stories of others, support them on their journey and allow them to accompany you in yours.

You are all your stories and the ones you still have to write

The past cannot be left behind like someone who hangs an old dress in a closet and closes the doors. Yesterday is part of us, it is integrated into our being and as such we must assume it as an experience, as one more thread in the fabric of our life cycle.

People are our stories, both past and present and, above all, those that we still have to write. Thus, for these next chapters to become great stories, there must be no shortage of reasons to move forward, to continue getting excited and feeling like artists and architects of our own destiny.

Giving up is not an option: find your reasons to keep going

In short, don’t beat yourself up if your motivation fluctuates or seems nonexistent some days, but remember that giving up is not an option. Look for your own reasons to move forward, those that ignite your soul and give meaning to your existence. Believe in yourself and your abilities, and find a way to remind yourself of your worth when you forget it. The best is yet to come.

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