How long does mourning last after a breakup?

When we end a relationship we can feel liberated, or we can sink in pain. Each person needs their time to experience a duel, and each person experiences it in a different way.

Within the duels there are stages, and better and worse moments but, when separating hurts a lot, the acceptance work and all the other phases of the duel they usually take longer.

During this path there are advances and setbacks, there are tougher times and other lighter ones, and everyone is looking for a way to leave the past behind and look with optimism at the new stage that is beginning in our lives.

At the beginning of the duel, we need to cry everything

In this phase of mourning, we sometimes torture ourselves trying to understand why they have stopped loving us. There is anger, confusion, frustration, resentment, a feeling of helplessness and abandonment, there is fear of loneliness.

There is a tsunami of emotions that does not allow us to think clearly, that doesn’t let us sleep and gets us into obsessive cycles that hurt us a lot.

That is why it is so important to take great care of yourself in this process, surround yourself with loved ones, and ask for help if we feel that we cannot get by alone by this process.

There is no set time to grieve: some last weeks, others months, and the worst last years.

It is essential that we ourselves Let’s learn to detect when the time has come to end the duel and start life again.

Take the plunge to live a new life

Human beings are very lucky because We can live several lives in one: all our path goes in stages. And when do these stage changes occur?

Sometimes they coincide with the entry into our lives of new people who accompanies us on the way When the people who were on our way follow yours alone or with other people. We also start new stages when we change study center, job, city or town, country. When We started something we are passionate about. When we make changes in our lives that have an impact on them, positive or negative. Also they fatal accidents or the happy events as weddings mark changes of stage. with each couple that we always start a new one.

When the relationship lasts a long time, it is more difficult to start a new life. But it’s also more exciting. After crying and pain, we have to put on our scout clothes and looking forward to the window to see our immediate future, to imagine and dream about it.

Each new stage brings us new experiences, more learning, and new loves, so thinking about our present and future can take us out of the deep state of sadness in which we plunge into romantic duels.

There is a time to cry, and to stop on the way to rest, and there is a time to get active, and keep going. Because on the road we can’t stay stopped for too long, and we can’t go back either.

life goes on and we must continue walking forward, albeit slowly, enjoying the scenery, but always forward.

Life is a constant struggle for survival and happiness, so we can spend a while crying and taking out the pain from within, but we cannot extend too much.

Because you have to eat, you have to work, you have to sleep, you have to clean, you have to dedicate time and energy to your loved ones, you have to resolve pending issues, you have to live in the present.

This is why mourning cannot keep us down for long: remaining immobile and suffering can lead us to depression and deteriorates our mental health.

It’s not healthy keep thinking about the ex three years after breaking up, it is not healthy to remain anchored in the past and eaten by nostalgia.

It’s not healthy mythologize a relationship when it ends, nor does it do us good to focus our lives on someone who no longer wants to be in it.

Well it was true: time heals everything

Sometime, you’ll feel like you’ve cried all you needed and that you cannot remain mired in sadness.

You will notice it because suddenly life will seem very short and you will want to fly with your new wings.

You will be able to rise when you let go of the heavy burden of the past: you will notice that you go much lighter and that you are free to live beautiful things and to have beautiful experiences.

Once you free yourself from the fear of being alone and of no one wanting you, once you have placed your ex in the ex’s place inside your heart.

It’s when you come out of the cave and you start walking like always, happy to have your people around.

Happy to be able to get ahead.

And you realize that It wasn’t as difficult as it seemed: that one can get out of all the holes if one is surrounded by good love, and if we learn to take care of ourselves and to love ourselves well.

And when you are already connected with yourself and leave the past behind, is when oblivion arrives, and you are already in others, living your life, designing your present and your future, enjoying yourself and your people.

And thinking: for it was true that time heals everything. And that there is no evil that lasts a hundred years, nor body that resists it.

AND you keep walking.